Irvine511 said:
i see this most in my female friends. i'm now in my early late 20's, and i can see and even hear a marriage obsession growing in the hearts and minds of my female friends. it's quite interesting to observe. there's such an expectation tossed upon women to get married, to have a great wedding, to be that beautiful bride, that the day itself becomes the goal, and not the success of the following 50+ years (should one be so lucky).
Heh, I'm 20, and while I would like to get married someday, I don't have any desire to do it right now. And I have on occasion thought about the wedding, but I've not been one of the girls who sits around for days on end imagining the big day and what all I'd want, and I've never been into the whole lavish, ridiculously expensive deal. No, I just want to wait a while, and hopefully the right person will one day come along some years down the road.
I think I need to stop watching "Unsolved Mysteries" and shows along that line so much, 'cause there have been so many cases of husbands killing their wives, or being abusive to them, or things along that line, on there, and
that is the one thing that makes me rather uneasy about getting married. I'm hoping that when I do eventually get married, my trust in my husband will not have been in vain, that he'll never wind up being a jerk along the lines of these guys I see on those shows.
Originally posted by Irvine511
i think marriage is tough. monogamy is hard. it's hard to wake up to the same person day after day after day (or so i'm told). but i think it can be worth it, for the stability it provides and for the physical and emotional strength it can provide for those lucky people. i also think that romance fades, that lust fades, and that something different but far more adult takes over: true, real friendship between two lifelong partners.
I agree wholeheartedly with the first part of your post, but I'm not so sure I agree with that last sentence, 'cause I've heard stories of couples who've been together for 50, 60 years and are still madly in love, how people can see they're still madly in love when they're together and all that.
This is going to sound weird, but you know that one commercial for that whole "A diamond is forever" thing where the younger couple is walking down a sidewalk and they pass an older couple who've been together for a long time? I just hope that I'll be like that older couple, still happily married to, and madly in love with, the same man that I fell in love with back when I was young. I don't want to be somebody who gets married multiple times-that's just never seemed appealing to me (I might marry a second time if the conditions warranted it-like if I'd left some jerk of a husband and found a guy who treated me much better or something like that. But no third, fourth, fifth times for me).
And as for the whole thing about various forms of marriage and things along that line...personally, my feelings are that as long as the couple are both consenting to the relationship, and they're both truly in love with each other, I don't care one iota how they choose to live together, be it a common law relationship or a marriage done in a church with all that stuff...whatever. As long as the couple's happy together, that's all that I feel is truly important. Nothing else matters.
Angela