shart1780
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BonoVoxSupastar said:
Hmmm, missed that scripture. All those roommates, it's ashame they'll all be burning...
You know what I mean
I mean living with someone romantically and skipping the marriage part.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Hmmm, missed that scripture. All those roommates, it's ashame they'll all be burning...
shart1780 said:Ummm... a christian is called to follow the Bible. I don't expect anyone to follow the Bible if they don't even claim to be a christian.
deep said:
you do realize there is picking and choosing of what parts to follow?
shart1780 said:No. If that were true the Bible would be useless.
shart1780 said:
No. If that were true the Bible would be useless.
Perhaps the purpose is to know the person as an individual rather than a sex object. Too many people put sexual aspects of a relationship onto a pedestal as if commitment and compassion have no place in a relationship. That's not to say I would force this belief on others, but I'd rather get to know who I'm sharing my body with than have a one-night stand with a gangbanger who doesn't get tested.Irvine511 said:i agree that it is a minority, but there is such a premium placed upon virginity and remaining a virgin until that wedding night that i can't help but think that cultural expectation helps produce marriages between two horny kids who might love each other then, but have no idea who they are or who they are going to become.
Macfistowannabe said:Perhaps the purpose is to know the person as an individual rather than a sex object. Too many people put sexual aspects of a relationship onto a pedestal as if commitment and compassion have no place in a relationship. That's not to say I would force this belief on others, but I'd rather get to know who I'm sharing my body with than have a one-night stand with a gangbanger who doesn't get tested.
If I missed your point earlier, my bad. Sure, maybe some (not many) marry just for the sex, but they will have to live that down for the rest of their lives and live with an utterly foolish past. If that happens to be their only motivation, they'll either be stuck together in some crazy maritial knot against their will for independence, or cope with a hurtful divorce.Irvine511 said:that's not what i'm talking about at all.
there are people who have highly intellecutal reasons for choosing to wait until they get married. more power to them. not somethign i would do, but if there is thought and process behind that decision, i'm find with it.
my problem is that you get kids who are very young, maybe just out of high school, who have been dating, and they are very, very horny, as we all are at 19 (or 27, or older). it becomes very difficult to wait until marriage, so my thought is that there are people in that age bracket (say, 19-23) who think they are in love at that time, but the base motivation to get married is to finally, finally be able to have sex, because there has been such a premium placed upon virginity -- and *especially* female virginity. so they go, they get married young, at like 22, adn by the time they are 32 they're completely different people.
i'm not saying that this is a rule, but i bet you it is common, and with the astonishingly stupid emphasis on abstinence only sex education, you can bet we'll see a lot more of it.
for me, it comes down to this: i support people who make thoughtful, informed decisions. one could decide to have sex before the first date, one could wait to have sex after the wedding ceremony.
so long as decisions are made with thought, and in good faith and with good intentions, then to each his own.
shart1780 said:I don't think I've met anyone horny enough to get married over it.