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Old 06-24-2005, 02:42 PM   #16
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Police, arrest tht man! He refuses to take out the trash!



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Great law
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Old 06-24-2005, 03:41 PM   #17
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that sounds utterly retarded to me
Forcing a man to do housework will just make him bitter.
Im guessing it will reduce the amount of weddings as well
Its my pleasure to keep the house nice for my guy, I enjoy making it pleasant to be in when he gets home from work. hes also not a lazy ass that just expects me to do everything either I suppose if that was his attitude I would be less joyful in doing things for him

Then again, I was raised and taught the biblical role of a woman to be the keeper of the home. This doesnt mean to me that Im going to have to do everything 100% of the time. But it does mean that Im to be my husbands helper and care for him the best I can
Im really looking forward to being married and taking care of the house!
Am I weird?
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Then again, I was raised and taught the biblical role of a woman to be the keeper of the home. This doesnt mean to me that Im going to have to do everything 100% of the time. But it does mean that Im to be my husbands helper and care for him the best I can
Im really looking forward to being married and taking care of the house!
Am I weird? [/B][/QUOTE]

Tara, I don't think you're weird. I felt the same way when I was first married. But once kids enter the house I definitely wanted and expected help.

I think the law may just be a way of changing the mindset of society and empower women to ask for more help from their partner.
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Old 06-24-2005, 05:18 PM   #19
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Oh believe me, once kids enter in I'm going to be begging for help
And once theyre old enough I can have slave labor

I think if they want to change the mindset of society, it ideally should start from parents teaching their children.
But obviously the parents would have to change their mindset.
There we go, legally force parents to teach their children to help their spouse out once in a while
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[BIm really looking forward to being married and taking care of the house!
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LOL, redkat said pretty much what I was going to say. There is nothing wrong with the woman taking care of the house if that is what both partners want. Its not weird and I felt the same way when I was about to set up my first household away from my parents.

My first husband was very old fashioned and wanted us to follow traditional gender roles but once I started working full time and 2 kids came along, being solely responsible for the house and kids didn't work out for me anymore. He worked 8 hours, I worked 10 to 12 hours, yet he got to sit back and relax after work while I cooked, did laundry, bathed babies and ironed our work clothes for the next day. I wasn't willing to play the dutiful housewife while the king sat back and watched TV.

The second time around, I'm lucky enough to married to someone who does more than his fair share and I don't even have to ask.

But again, every couple has to decide for themselves what works. Be honest about your expectations and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. And don't be a martyr!
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thanks for the encouragement
Tim would never let me be a martyr
He thanks me prrofusely for making him a simple little dinner
The agreement is that if Im too busy to make dinner at the end of the day he gets PB&J and a night of great sex
It was actually suggested by one of my pastors wives

I think he's in charge of the guy stuff like lightbulbs and garbage when I dont get to it....
I feel really lucky to have the kind of guy I have

It helps that he was a bachelor until he was 31
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I'm sure you two will be great together. As far as PBJ's go you'd be suprised how often that's what dh gets he likes them quite a bit.

I think it's a matter of respecting each other and wanting to share the load. I do most traditional things but if things are rough he steps in and does a lot vice versa if he's got to work late I'll take on some of his chores.

I know a lot of women who aren't that lucky it's so sad to hear them talk really. They aren't happy and I think they lose respect for their husbands really quick in those situations.

Mrs.BAW I'm glad you and Mr.BAW found each other
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The Spanish people elected these people through the democratic process, if they have a problem with it then they should answer at the ballot box.
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My dad helps out around the house every so often-he cooks from time to time, helps with the dishes on occasion, and offers to help my mom with the laundry, too. My mom still yells at him for forgetting to throw dirty clothes in the basket, though .

But yeah, I agree with you guys-this sort of thing should be an issue that the couple and the couple alone should discuss. There shouldn't be a law enforcing this stuff-that's stupid.

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but wouldn't you be teaching your son to be gay?
Ha ha...

but nope. I do 4 of those 5: cook, iron, laundry, clean toilets.
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that sounds utterly retarded to me
Forcing a man to do housework will just make him bitter.
That's just always been the plan on how to get out of it: act bitter

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[i]Its my pleasure to keep the house nice for my guy, I enjoy making it pleasant to be in when he gets home from work. [/B]
You'll get over that. Believe me.

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[i]Then again, I was raised and taught the biblical role of a woman to be the keeper of the home. This doesnt mean to me that Im going to have to do everything 100% of the time. But it does mean that Im to be my husbands helper and care for him the best I can [/B]
That too

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[i]Im really looking forward to being married and taking care of the house!
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No not weird, just don't tell him this!!
Seriously.. u2bonogirl.. I wish you and your mate all the happiness and love in world.
Just don't give up all your self to anyone else.
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Old 06-30-2005, 06:54 PM   #28
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This law is not going to be about arresting guys who won't help around the house; it's going to be about how the settlement works out when she divorces his lazy ass. This is one of the reasons I'm in no rush to get married; I do not wish to spend half my time taking care of a man-baby, and the other half of the time felling "bitter"... I mean, really--what about all the women who are made to feel bitter by lazy, chauvanistic jerks?

I figure, if you can reach the dials on the machine, you're old enough to figure out how to do your own laundry. If you're old enough to be married, you're old enough to figure out how to fry an egg. When I get married, I want to marry a grown up--not a six foot tall child.
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Ha ha...

but nope. I do 4 of those 5: cook, iron, laundry, clean toilets.

Irvine told me the gay list is:

cook, iron, laundry, clean toilets, and not have sex with women.


look who's 5 for 5
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The Spanish people elected these people through the democratic process, if they have a problem with it then they should answer at the ballot box.
True, they voted for a Socialist government and sooner or later socialist governments interfere in people's private lives. It seems to be a kind of addiction of socialist governments.
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