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Old 01-27-2002, 10:56 AM   #1
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Does anyone know if a Catholic priest would marry you outside the structure of a church? I'm thinking of getting hitched at an Inn on the side of a mountain. The location is midway between our hometowns so it would be less than a day's drive for each side of the family. Plus the Inn's got rooms and the whatnot for people if they want to stay over. Plus it has great views and looks great. Getting married by a Catholic Priest is a priority, however, the physicality of actually being in a church isn't.

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Old 01-27-2002, 02:19 PM   #2
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The Catholic Church expressedly forbids Catholic ceremonies outside of the actual building, and since you wish to be married by a Catholic priest, you are out of luck.

Personally, I find such a rule to reek of traditional legalism. The belief is that God is within the Church building; hence, your marriage is in the presence of God. This had its origins in the Middle Ages. However, why would God not be present outside of the Church building? Regardless, I doubt the Catholic Church will be changing this stance anytime soon.

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Does anyone know if a Catholic priest would marry you outside the structure of a church?
Have you asked one?
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Old 01-31-2002, 09:04 PM   #6
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I've never heard of it being done, which, being Catholic, has always saddened me, because I've always wanted to have an outdoor wedding. So whatever you find out, please let me know!!! And congratulations and the best of luck!!!
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Apparently they cannot refuse to marry you if you are Catholic. There's probably a clause somewhere that states it has to be in the church, but its worth a try.
I went through something like this. Is it any wonder I hate religion?
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It depends on where you live!


I know a priest from my old parish - probably one of the BEST guys you'll ever meet that actually took a lot of criticism for doing weddings outside the church among other things... Ask around, you may be surprised, times are changing.

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Hi there....

My parents did the exact thing you did, they got married on a mountain (well, actually in the hall nearby because it was raining lol).

They had to get married in an actual church a few days before the normal ceremony with all the guests etc....even though the priest was a friend of theirs. However, this was in 1976, so I don't know if the rules have changed since then.

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Does anyone know if a Catholic priest would marry you outside the structure of a church? I'm thinking of getting hitched at an Inn on the side of a mountain. The location is midway between our hometowns so it would be less than a day's drive for each side of the family. Plus the Inn's got rooms and the whatnot for people if they want to stay over. Plus it has great views and looks great. Getting married by a Catholic Priest is a priority, however, the physicality of actually being in a church isn't.

Thanks for your help.

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Old 02-01-2002, 07:04 PM   #10
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I know a priest from my old parish - probably one of the BEST guys you'll ever meet that actually took a lot of criticism for doing weddings outside the church among other things... Ask around, you may be surprised, times are changing.
Well, that is also another reality. There are a lot of priests nowadays openly breaking Church laws. Not to say that this isn't a law worthy of breaking. So, with that in mind, it might work out with an outdoor wedding. Good luck.

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