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Old 01-12-2007, 01:13 PM   #16
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It just wasn't clear what you meant by "harder", in what way you were speaking of. Can I ask why you would be happy as a woman to do that?
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Old 01-12-2007, 01:14 PM   #17
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i don't think it sounds awkward i think it is pretty symbolic.
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Old 01-12-2007, 01:19 PM   #18
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It just wasn't clear what you meant by "harder", in what way you were speaking of. Can I ask why you would be happy as a woman to do that?

Well, because that way the family would be one and together and there would be a sense of belonging. If both people have different last names there´s still a sense of separation and the whole point of marriage is to be one with your partner.
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Old 01-12-2007, 01:21 PM   #19
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I don't think you have to have the same name to be one with your partner, that is about so much more than your name. It's easier legally and if you have kids, but other than that it's irrelevant.
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Also, I think you guys will hit the roof with this one.

In Honduras (I´m not so sure about the rest of latin america) most married women add the "de" before their husbands last names. So if Marcela Ulloa marries Alejandro Almeyda, then Marcela´s name could be Marcela de Almeyda (translating to Marcela of Almeyda, but it´s more of a possesive connotation here) or Marcela Ulloa de Almeyda.

The children´s first names would always be Almeyda though. But we do use maiden names here. So if they have a child named Ricardo he would Ricardo Almeyda Ulloa.
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i don't know if i'd agree that that is a sign of being one. that's more like the woman absorbing into the man, losing her own individualism, while the man doesn't lose anything.
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The children´s first names would always be Almeyda though. But we do use maiden names here. So if they have a child named Ricardo he would Ricardo Almeyda Ulloa.
how is that different from hypenating?
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Because the 2nd last name isn´t as important. I rarely use my second last name.
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that's more like the woman absorbing into the man, losing her own individualism, while the man doesn't lose anything.
Well sometimes I think that is still the ideal for relationships and marriage for some people.
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I don't think you have to have the same name to be one with your partner, that is about so much more than your name. It's easier legally and if you have kids, but other than that it's irrelevant.
Well, you´re right. It´s not a make-or-break kind of thing. That´s why I used such a useless little word like "sweet" to describe the process.

I would just be kind of dissapointed if my wife wouldn´t want my last name.
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Old 01-12-2007, 01:29 PM   #26
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My sister hyphenates her name. I changed mine, but I keep my maiden name for my writing. My husband's cousin changed his name to his wife's, because there are no boys in her family and they wanted the name to continue. I think it's up to the individuals.
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Well sometimes I think that is still the ideal for relationships and marriage for some people.
yeah i agree, there are loads of people that prefer it that way. which is cool, whatever, i'm not gonna marry them. i was just agreeing that it is a sign of oneness.
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Because the 2nd last name isn´t as important. I rarely use my second last name.
ah okay gotcha. see i just think both names are important, thats why i'd rather hyphenate.

but kudos to this guy who wants to take his wife's last name. it sucks that it is such a pain of a process. it shouldn't have to be that way. as this thread has shown, there are very different traditions with names. i don't see why it has to be such a big ordeal.
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i know many women who add their husband's last name to their own last name, no hyphen, and just use three names.

i assume i will always keep my name especially because, in my field as in Yolland's, one builds up a portfolio upon which future jobs are offered.

if i were to adopt theoretical children, i have no idea what we'd do with their last names.
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I don't think it's right for it to be so hard for the husband to take the wife's name if that's what he wants to do.
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