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Old 06-04-2002, 08:05 PM   #1
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wink How old is too old to be a virgin?

I was talking about this with my friends last night, and I thought I'd see what you guys had to say. Past what age do you think it would be weird for someone to still be a virgin (not counting people who purposely wait until marriage and situations like that)? And is the age different for guys and girls?

My friends and I decided that around the age of 25 it's basically assumed that you aren't a virgin, so if you were it'd probably be considered strange. Most people probably lose it in high school or college, so by 22 most are not virgins, but we added a few more years just for those who are late bloomers. Definitely anyone 30 or older would be an oddity!

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well...i have a lot to say here...

i think before 18 is too young, that's for me only, i mean, it's ok for other people, but personally...no.

girls usually lose theirs at 17 while boys lose theirs at 15. to me, that's a bit young for comfort.

i think i want to wait until i find another cardboard friend to marry then consummate our relationship the proper way...but again, that's just me.


i don't think there is a 'too old' for still being a virgin, it's becoming more 'in' to keep your virginity until you are comfortable giving it away.
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i don't think there is a 'too old' for still being a virgin, it's becoming more 'in' to keep your virginity until you are comfortable giving it away.
I agree completely.
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Old 06-04-2002, 09:16 PM   #4
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I think this is an interesting topic.

But make sure you keep it polite in case you are describing someone's actual situation, of which this is a very private decision for someone to lose their virginity or wait.

Unfortunately, society and the media have made it seem like virginity is something to be ashamed of. I think "making love" is a beautiful thing. I mean, you wouldn't just call any old relationship "Love" would you? Not me. So hence, I wouldn't "make love" with anyone I wasn't in love with.

And when I do make love, it will be with someone I will spend the rest of my life with, no matter what the age is.
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I think the right time or age for someone is whenever they feel they are mature enough to handle the situation. Too many people rush into it I think, then live to regret it later. Whatever the media says, people should know following their minds is the right thing to do.
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Interesting topic- I think that it is all very personal really- most of my friends lost their virginity quite young- like from 14 to 17- I was just a tad older than that and was considered I guess 'odd' by my friends but anyway I didnt care, but I would think now that I guess that if you are still a virgin at maybe 22 then that is a bit off but then you must look at why. Maybe the person is scared of it, hasnt met the right person or is simply waiting although the later one I am yet to meet one person yet in my life who is or has waited until they were married- do these people actually exist????

anyway I think that in this department you have to do what is right for you and not what society or your friends may dictate
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Well, John is 33...and I am 20...and we are both still waiting.
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Old 06-04-2002, 11:31 PM   #8
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I am yet to meet one person yet in my life who is or has waited until they were married- do these people actually exist????
There are people who are waiting until they are married although it is rare in this day an age. You've just met one, me.
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Unfortunately, society and the media have made it seem like virginity is something to be ashamed of.
I beg to differ.

I think that virginity has become commodified (see: Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, various members of N*SYNC, et al. for examples of this phenomenon.) It has becomes something to exhibit, parade, and exchange for fame and a sanctimonious attitude. Take Jessica Simpson, for example. I don't give two hoots whether or not she's a virgin, but there's nothing "pure" about how she posed for Maxim. And I don't care if she poses for Maxim, incidentally. I don't care if she poses for Hustler, quite frankly. I just don't think that she can claim to be so "pure" if she does that.

I'm 19, not a virgin, and don't really care. I have a lot of respect for people who make up their own minds in their own time about sex, and if you're still a virgin, that's great if that's what you want. But I'm sick of hearing that being a virgin is somehow more "special" or "mature" than not being one. I lost mine when the time was right for me, with someone I still care for very much, and after a lot of careful deliberation.

The "new abstinence" movement in sexual education is playing right into this. They're trying to make kids and teenagers think that virginity is "cool" or "special," but not giving them the facts about contraception and prevention of STDs. Isn't it one of the aims of sex education that kids be able to make up their own minds about sex with all of the pertinent information?

It's like...let's say you go into a record store, and the guy behind the counter wants to sell you a Britney Spears (hee hee!) CD. You don't think you want Britney Spears. You say, "No, thanks, I'm looking for the most recent Belle and Sebastian CD. What' s the name of it again?" The guy gets all huffy and he's like, "Well, fine, go ahead, I can't stop you. But I won't tell you the name of it and I won't tell you where it is." So you have to wander around Tower Records or whatever it is for an hour or two trying to find it, and instead of Fold Your Hands Child, You Walk Like a Peasant, you go home with Tigermilk or something instead.

Um, yeah, I veered madly off-topic. Maybe we should move this to FYM. Mods?
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well, all religious notions aside I will wait until marriage...which only God knows when will be!!(hurry up God! hurry up!)

Not because jesus says "yo! hands off"
but becasue it makes sense to me...in a sort of cheesy way
oi...here I go...
I see it(virginity) has one of the greatest gifts I can offer the beautiful gal I marry. it is the ultimate way to express how you feel for someone and I don't want to give that to anyone BUT the one I will be with forever.

that being said, I have nothing against those who do not think this way and I realize that I will in all likelyhood end up with someone who isn't a virgin. Thats just the way it is if your 21 and looking for other who are your age
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um...i'm one of those "rare" people who is waiting for marriage. i think virginity is special. it's one thing you can lose and never find again (pardon the horrible pun). imo, sex is a gift, and it's meant for marraige. humans are monogomous by nature...sex should be the same way. call me naive or innocent or sheltered, but i'm going to stick with this one.
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I am going to wait until marriage because I think that when u have sex u should really love the person.
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adamswildhoney, why the ?
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My sister just graduated from college and is a virgin and I say good for her! On the other hand, I work with a guy who will be 31 this year and just lost his virginity. He's kind of a freak though. He watches a lot of porn and according to his new girlfriend doesn't have much of a sex drive b/c of it....
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I don't think you can really put an expiration date on virginity, at least not for everyone.
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