"Homosexuals. I think it's kind of gross."

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ImOuttaControl said:
Why not respect everyones opinion? If someone thinks its gross then they are entitled to their opinion! God forbid a parent teaches their child about the traditional man/woman relationship!


What crosses the line is when discrimination starts happening, and this 12 year old saying it's gross is not discriminating...it's just stating her opinion that she thinks its gross.

I'm 23. I think homosexuality is gross but then again I have homosexual friends and would never discriminate against them. There's a huge difference.

too many people are way too pc.

I think you missed the point -- at least my point.

I don't care that little Viv thinks homosexuality is gross -- as others have pointed out most 12 year olds think ALL sex is gross. What I reacted to is that she was "asked to name the country's biggest problem" and homosexuality was her answer. Even a 12 year old should be able to see that there are FAR bigger problems than the type of sexual relations people are having. And I think that her parents are teaching her to become a bigot (not because she thinks it's gross, but because it's kind of obvious that she's being taught that it's the biggest problem in the country).

As far as Shart1780 is concerned...he too is allowed to think homosexual relations are gross. The problem with his statement is that he stated that "anyone who's not homosexual will find it gross" and that is simply NOT true. He's now backing off, currently saying that "most" men find it gross, but then he even screws that up by saying that if men say they don't find it gross they are lying. I can't quite figure out when Shart became omniscient.... :rolleyes:

And what I notice about the PC label is that people say "oh you're being so pc" when they can't back up their views. :p
 
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ImOuttaControl said:
tolerance and accepting as right are two completetly different things. I tolerate homosexuality, but I don't think it's right. I suppose my parents didn't raise me correctly :eyebrow:

Actually it isn't about your parents any longer.
But tolerance is about all things and people in general.
There comes a time when one has to change the things they can and learn to accept or at least, not judge, the things they cannot change.
 
shart1780 said:
Tell me how you feel about it, Indra. Do you find the thought gross?

Nope.

Not only do I not find the thought gross, I don't even find the act gross.

So put THAT in your pipe and smoke it, Shart1780! :D
 
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ImOuttaControl said:
tolerance and accepting as right are two completetly different things. I tolerate homosexuality, but I don't think it's right. I suppose my parents didn't raise me correctly :eyebrow:

Well...:D
 
indra said:


I think you missed the point -- at least my point.

I don't care that little Viv thinks homosexuality is gross -- as others have pointed out most 12 year olds think ALL sex is gross. What I reacted to is that she was "asked to name the country's biggest problem" and homosexuality was her answer. Even a 12 year old should be able to see that there are FAR bigger problems than the type of sexual relations people are having. And I think that her parents are teaching her to become a bigot (not because she thinks it's gross, but because it's kind of obvious that she's being taught that it's the biggest problem in the country).

Are you able to have the mindset of a 12 year old? Who are you so say this person shoud be able to see "that there are far bigger problems than the type of sexual relations.."

I'm a teacher. I teach grades 6-12. I teach the children in my class tolerance of all groups of people. BUT, 12 year olds DO NOT see the grand scheme of things in the world. It's called cognitive development. Children, which is what a 12 year old is, don't move to an abstract form of thinking for a couple of years yet. They are still in a a concrete state of mind. Things are right or wrong. Black and white. They are not able to see all ends. The may not see that "there are far bigger problems in the world." That all comes with cognitive development. Your reasoning just doesn't work here.
 
ImOuttaControl said:


Are you able to have the mindset of a 12 year old? Who are you so say this person shoud be able to see "that there are far bigger problems than the type of sexual relations.."

I'm a teacher. I teach grades 6-12. I teach the children in my class tolerance of all groups of people. BUT, 12 year olds DO NOT see the grand scheme of things in the world. It's called cognitive development. Children, which is what a 12 year old is, don't move to an abstract form of thinking for a couple of years yet. They are still in a a concrete state of mind. Things are right or wrong. Black and white. They are not able to see all ends. The may not see that "there are far bigger problems in the world." That all comes with cognitive development. Your reasoning just doesn't work here.

Honey, when I was twelve I was a freshman in high school and I'll tell you I knew there were far bigger issues in this country (any country, for that matter) than the manner in which people have sexual relations. I was a child, but I was able to think abstractly, thank you very much. I'm sorry to screw up your idea that 12 year olds only think concretely, but I was pondering then many of the issues I'm still pondering now. And I know several 8-13 year olds who do think abstractly (my niece is only 9 and yet is learning that not everyone believes the same things her parents do. And she's learning to decide for herself what is right, not merely to parrot her parents.

And I'm not blaming the kid, it's her parents I fault. She's clearly just parroting what they say.
 
ImOuttaControl said:


Well...forcing people into a frame of mind that they don't believe is the same thing fascists tried to do...

You can say the same thing about the people working for civil rights in the 60's too. :wink:
 
Frankly all hardcore porn is strange and off-putting. You humans shooting DNA at eachother - I find it offensive.
 
indra said:


Honey, when I was twelve I was a freshman in high school and I'll tell you I knew there were far bigger issues in this country (any country, for that matter) than the manner in which people have sexual relations. I was a child, but I was able to think abstractly, thank you very much. I'm sorry to screw up your idea that 12 year olds only think concretely, but I was pondering then many of the issues I'm still pondering now. And I know several 8-13 year olds who do think abstractly (my niece is only 9 and yet is learning that not everyone believes the same things her parents do. And she's learning to decide for herself what is right, not merely to parrot her parents.

And I'm not blaming the kid, it's her parents I fault. She's clearly just parroting what they say.

Well, honey, you know nothing of congnitive development. Read about Piaget and other professionals who have basically written the books on the subject. Give me a break. I teach 12 year olds every day. They are so immature and "black and white" in their thinking it is honestly funny as an educator. That's what I need to break through, but I know that really can't happen till the students reach 14-15 years old. Freshman at age 12? What kind of school did you go to???? Most freshman are 15 years old. Students graduate as seniors at about age 18. Basically, you sound like someone who is trying to put a spin on your own recollections of being that age because you probably can't remember the mindset you were in then. Know several 8 year olds who can think abstractly? I would like you to find a study to back that up. Every educational professor I know would laugh if you said that. I would know, because as I am getting my masters in education we are talking about the subject of abstract/concrete thinking right now.

Those 8-13 year olds who think abstractly....are they not parroting what they hear from other people? Most likely. In class when kids talk about the election coming up they have these grand arguements...but it ALWAYS comes down to "my mom and dad said this..." And this all comes around to what I originally said. The parents have values in which they don't believe homosexuality is correct and that is perfectly within their rights to say so. The child is not at an age when they can think about things like this abstractly and see the bigger picture.
 
A_Wanderer said:
Frankly all hardcore porn is strange and off-putting. You humans shooting DNA at eachother - I find it offensive.

NOW we know the truth about you!! You sexless one! :ohmy:
 
What can I say baby, I am a love machine :sexywink:

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indra said:


You can say the same thing about the people working for civil rights in the 60's too. :wink:

Saying homosexuality is gross is not depriving anyone of their rights. It is just stating an opinion. The civil rights movement was completely different. Huge difference. Read a history book to see the sort of shit blacks had to deal with...attack dogs, fire hoses, disenfranchisement, tear gas, intimidation, brutality. What a slap in the face to blacks to equate the civil rights movement with a 12 year old saying homosexuality is gross.
 
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indra said:


Huh? You really think homosexuality is this country's biggest problem? It would be GREAT if the sexual orientation of the nations' citizens was this country's biggest problem.

sure dude
 
ImOuttaControl said:


Saying homosexuality is gross is not depriving anyone of their rights. It is just stating an opinion. The civil rights movement was completely different. Huge difference. Read a history book to see the sort of shit blacks had to deal with...attack dogs, fire hoses, disenfranchisement, tear gas, intimidation, brutality. What a slap in the face to blacks to equate the civil rights movement with a 12 year old saying homosexuality is gross.

Again, that is NOT what I was referring to. I was directly replying to your comment comparing me with a fascist. (see below) I never told you or anyone what you had to believe. But if I express my opinion, you compare me to a fascist. When you did that I merely pointed out that many people who denied blacks rights because they didn't want to drink out of the same fountain, sit on the same bus seats, use the same restrooms (many people probably thought that was gross too), probably didn't like having others opinions "forced" on them either.

Well...forcing people into a frame of mind that they don't believe is the same thing fascists tried to do...
 
shart1780 said:
We'll have a big problem when the entire country turns gay.

First, it won't.

But just for fun, let's say it will. How will that be a big problem?
 
ImOuttaControl said:

I teach 12 year olds every day. They are so immature and "black and white" in their thinking it is honestly funny as an educator. That's what I need to break through, but I know that really can't happen till the students reach 14-15 years old. Freshman at age 12? What kind of school did you go to???? Most freshman are 15 years old. Students graduate as seniors at about age 18.

What kind of school did I go to???? A good one. One which allowed me to develop at my pace instead of the pace at which the "experts" said I should develop. When I was in public school I was nearly failed in 7th grade ("she simply can't do the work"), yet I very easily tested into a 9th grade college prep course at a much better private school. And you know what? I did fine. Not only was I a 12 year old freshman, but I graduated 3 1/2 months after turning 16. It's not completely unheard of. :wink:

And as far as the 8-13 year olds I know, I guess I just know an extraordinarily bright group of kids (and when I think of it...they really are wickedly smart kids -- in some ways I pity them, life will be hard for a while).

But I will give you that not all kids are able to think abstractly when they are young (some I think never will). I remember trying to convince a soon to be 16 year old freshman (I was a junior) that I would get my driver's license at the same age she would get her's (16). She never did comprehend that although she would be a freshman and I would be a senior when we got our licenses, we would both be 16 years old! If this is what you usually have to deal with...I give you my condolences.
 
indra said:
And as far as the 8-13 year olds I know, I guess I just know an extraordinarily bright group of kids (and when I think of it...they really are wickedly smart kids -- in some ways I pity them, life will be hard for a while).

Yep. I know an 11-year-old who is just as funky as me. :yes:
 
ImOuttaControl said:


Saying homosexuality is gross is not depriving anyone of their rights. It is just stating an opinion. The civil rights movement was completely different. Huge difference. Read a history book to see the sort of shit blacks had to deal with...attack dogs, fire hoses, disenfranchisement, tear gas, intimidation, brutality. What a slap in the face to blacks to equate the civil rights movement with a 12 year old saying homosexuality is gross.

tell that to my dead cousin. He killed himself cuz he just couldnt tell his family that he was gay. It IS about civil rights. Gay people are mocked, hated and tormented in many parts of this country. AND they don't have the right to get married or have civil union benefits for their partners and in many cases gay couples are not allowed to adopt children. I know gay people who have been turned down for jobs just because they were gay...and I'm talking about jobs like flipping burgers or delivering pizzas. Not the same as the civil right's movement my ass
 
LoveTown said:


tell that to my dead cousin. He killed himself cuz he just couldnt tell his family that he was gay. It IS about civil rights. Gay people are mocked, hated and tormented in many parts of this country. AND they don't have the right to get married or have civil union benefits for their partners and in many cases gay couples are not allowed to adopt children. I know gay people who have been turned down for jobs just because they were gay...and I'm talking about jobs like flipping burgers or delivering pizzas. Not the same as the civil right's movement my ass

Thank you for posting that, LoveTown. I know that must be difficult for you to talk about.

:hug:

That said, this thread is on its way out. I simply can't, and won't, abide any more comments in FYM about "the whole country turning gay" and how "homosexuality is gross." It won't, it's not, and if this makes me an intolerant liberal, well, then, so be it.

I'm tired of watching my gay friends and co-posters pilloried in here. Simone de Beauvoir once wrote that "No one is free unless everyone is free." Discrimination and unkindness towards my gay friends affects me too, and I won't sit by and "tolerate" it. No sirree Bob, not me.

Go discuss how gross gay people are somewhere else. FYM is no longer the place to do it.
 
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