Justin24 said:So if they gave a better response would you act the way you all did now or give a different response?
Justin24 said:Well there is nothing we can do. They have a right to say what they want.
tommyvill said:
A child needs to know who to be called his mum and who is to be called his dad.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Where is this written?
I knew kids raised by grandparents, kids raised by single parents and they all grew up fine not knowing who to call mom and who to call dad.
tommyvill said:
what about those Archaetypical figures havin two same-sex faces? I would experiment with my children...
tommyvill said:
Well everybody knows many people here I see huh?
No I was talking about concept not about words, and I was referring to "parents figures": a "dad figure" and a "mum figure" to relate...It can be your grandparents it can be your uncles it can be who you want, but believe me, a child needs it...Open up your eyes...and I'm sure that deeply you can see that too...
tommyvill said:lapsun
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Well if it can be in grandparents or uncles then you just answered your own questions.
Just like single parents, same sex parents can offer opposite sex models for their children through these means.
BonoVoxSupastar said:Tommyvill you can edit your posts with the 'edit' buttom.
tommyvill said:
They CAN? I need it to be GUARANTEED to accept them to adopt my baby if anything (God forbid!) happens to me!!!
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Guaranteed?! Oh, please!!!
There are no guarantees. You can't guarantee that a straight couple will love the child the way it needs to be loved, or that they stay together, or that they will be good parents.
VintagePunk said:Apparently some people associate heterosexuality with automatic psychological health and the ability to parent well.
tommyvill said:
It's the same old same:
Yes I know it's difficult to choose, but that's the way we should go if we want adoption to be a good one...
And we gotta to come the closest we can to guarantees...
Otherwise it's better not to give the child in adoptions rather than not being sure of the outcomes of it!!
tommyvill said:
And you're very right!!! If we find sooo hard to guarantee that even heteroadoptions will work out right, why should we bring the whole thing further trying to do things that nature doesn't allow?
tommyvill said:
bonovoxsupastar you seem to watch only the parent's point of view, but try to watch it from a child's one...
This here...tommyvill said:
We know that even Heterofamilies can't guarantee "family wellness" so why should we try with things that brings toward the children further psychological and intellectual stress that could keep him from growing the best he can?
tommyvill said:
And remember that in the first issue we are not gays or lesbians or hetero, we are all human being, some human being likes people of opposite sex and some don't, and the latter are called gays and lesbians but it's just a matter of what you like, not of what you are...this is very very "western way of life", very materialistic: describe people with what they like. But I believe there are no races here, just the human one. We are all the same. Free your mind.
Tom
hehehehe!!
Vintage Punk you made the most classical logical jump of all...
If I've not put it in that way there should be a reason, shouldn't it?
And the reason is that....I didn't wanna tell you this! I know many gays and lesbians (actually one of my best friend is a lesbian) and I'm very faraway from saying that they're not psychologically ok....
Of course not. What we should be looking at is overall trends, and by looking at both sets, I think it can be agreed that *some* hetero singles/couples, and *some* homo singles/couples should not adopt, period. When screening for potential adoptive parents, the same strict criteria should be used for both instances, gender and sexuality aside.I could as well ask you: "hey does Homofamilies automatically guarantee automatic psychological health instead?"...
but I won't do that, I'll try to expalin better my point of view.
The whole question question is to be seen from children point of view what happens? Are adult's right of having baby in whatever condition more important than the children one's of having the best environment that we can give him? We should guarantee the committment of looking for the best for him...
We know that even Heterofamilies can't guarantee "family wellness" so why should we try with things that brings toward the children further psychological and intellectual stress that could keep him from growing the best he can?
And remember that in the first issue we are not gays or lesbians or hetero, we are all human being, some human being likes people of opposite sex and some don't, and the latter are called gays and lesbians but it's just a matter of what you like, not of what you are...this is very very "western way of life", very materialistic: describe people with what they like. But I believe there are no races here, just the human one. We are all the same. Free your mind.
adrball said:I can't believe I took the time time to read this thread.
It's just not natural
Justin24 said:
I just want to say, why is it that someone who has different belife such as arball get treated as an outsider?
BonoVoxSupastar said:If the person came in and made at least an attempt to make an intelligent argument it would have been different. But they didn't they came in and called the thread a waste and just chalked it up to not being "natural". Why because it didn't fit in their box? You can do better than that.
I don't believe this is not natural. Animals have always ventured across the planet and IMO it was enevitable that people of differene races would meet.BonoVoxSupastar said:
Let me put it this way.
What if the same response was put in a thread about interacial couples?
diamond said:
adrball said:
The purpose of my post was to share where I stand on this issue, not really to elaborate on why. Expressing reasoniing behind what I thought, on the belief that it may lead others to change theirs, was not all on my agenda, so why should I?
adrball said:
I don't believe this is not natural. Animals have always ventured across the planet and IMO it was enevitable that people of differene races would meet.
diamond said:i dunno.
there seems to be a lot of evidence in some of those testimonies..and most gay guys i know were quite randy, never being able to maintain a LTR.
soo...i don't think this bodes well for bringing up children..same as a single parent..either straight or gay.
ta-ta
dbs
diamond said:i dunno.
there seems to be a lot of evidence in some of those testimonies..and most gay guys i know were quite randy, never being able to maintain a LTR.
soo...i don't think this bodes well for bringing up children..same as a single parent..either straight or gay.
ta-ta
dbs