Re: i provoke you
WildHoneyChild said:
Why are people so negative sometimes? How can people give up? ... I think too much ^_^
i wonder about the negativity, too. I mean, there are a billion problems in the world, and too much suffering, but it's negativity that lets those problems happen. I truly think idealism and optimism are two of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal to identify, tackle and SOLVE the problems people face.
I never thought of myself as especially optimistic until I began to recently share an office with a close friend...but we were not as close as I thought. I never knew she was such a pessimist! I thought she just faced some tough problems. Now I see how often she CREATES those problems for herself. It's like she's not happy unless she's suffering something.
That bothers me, because she's not suffering. Sure, she has her little troubles to deal with, we all do. But hers are nothing compared to the things I've been reading about lately...she's alive...and like Bono told us 6,500 people died in Africa today. That's enough to make anyone just want to go in a corner and hide.
But I think this is where your original post comes into effect. "To go forward, you must go through the dark and then you will reach the light." It's a tiny bit cliche, but just because something is cliche doesn't make it untrue.
There is nothing "action" about this post. Just me expressing my outlook toward life, and realizing that I could fall into the same trap and just complain about my friend's negativism. Negativism is contagious! Cover your hearts before you catch it, too! Instead, I try to react and act on it. I try to show her the other problems people in the world face..."OH NO," you say. "You're one of those who tries to guilt us out of our right to feel bad for ourselves." Sure, I've tried that before, but it turns into this dumb game of who has it worse. So, I show her the problems they face and THEN i show her ways to try and help! (I must admit many posts here on interference help me with this part.) And she responds...really she does. She feels better.
Maybe it has to do with feeling like we have no control over our lives. But even small things like sending letters make some people feel like they are taking ACTION and therefore having at least a chance of influencing or affecting something. And I have found through my very limited experience, that it makes people feel better about things.
It's tough, isn't it, to go through the daily routines of life when questions like the ones you've posted are tumbling around in your head?