I just joined this site today, and never in a million years would I have thought THIS would be my first post. But, I can't help myself . . .
If the church you go to is so big that you don't know and trust your minister, your church is too big. That's where I draw the line. The minister should know the name of each member of the church, as long as the members put forth effort into introducing themselves and keeping in touch with the minister, but if they're not doing that, then that's another problem... You don't have to know everyone in the congregation, but I think in order to really trust and respect the minister, you have to know each other to some extent. And I'm guessing churches with 4000+ members can't claim to "know" their minister.
Here's my beef with this argument. If we go back to the Acts chapter 2, the very first church on its very first day in existance topped out at more than 3,000 members. Acts 2:47 "Those who accepted his [St. Peter] message were baptized, and about 3,000 were added to their number that day." Calculating that they didn't even count women in children in such figures, it's safe to say the first church, the church in Jerusalem, was well within what we'd call a MEGA-CHURCH. And I know few Christians who'd be willing to say that Peter and the bunch were doing church all wrong.
My point is this. The Church has many different purposes and many different objectives. First and foremost among those are: 1.) Providing a place of worship; 2.) Providing for the needs of its members; 3.) Providing a place for those who are seeking Christ to find Him. Each individual church should have these three points within their main goals, but each church is going to put different emphasis on each. The more contemporary, power point friendly churches, such as Saddleback and Willow Creek as mentioned before, have a "seeker-sensative" approach to church, putting their emphasis on #3. The more traditional, hymnal friendly churches, such as the ones many of you have mentioned attending, likely put more emphasis on #1. All churches, I would hope, put emphasis on #2.
In God's Kingdom, different churches have different roles to play, and it's up to the individual to find which church best gives them what they're looking for. I currently attend a more contemporary church, and I admit that there are times when the music is as mind-numbing as a Britney Spears poetry reading contest, but the way in which people are finding God for the first time in a relevant setting that speaks to their situation is something I'll sacrifice the spritual depth of the hymnal for. But that's just me. My personal worship to God is something I'm in charge of, and I don't need a church with whatever style of worship to make that happen.
We all have different styles and we all have different tastes. Christians are a mixed bunch of nuts, and let's let them have their own flavor. Division over worship styles, power point presentations, the color of the carpet, etc. have divided too many church for too long. Jesus' last words before committing his life to the cross were not, "worship with hymns/bands" or "stick to traditions" but " . . . may they [Christians] be one as we [Jesus and the Father] are one. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you have sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me." (John 17:22-23)