I’ve been following this story since it was a feature story in the New York Times. I doubt Mr. McCauley put the sign up because he has a black, cold heart. He probably had huge problems with with badly behaved children and their unconcerned parents and most likely heard complaints from both customers and his staff. According to the Times article, a bunch of moms got their panties in a wad, claimed discrimination, threatened to boycott Mr. McCauley’s coffee shop, blah, blah, soccer mom cakes. However, once word got out that Mr. McCauley had this sign up in his shop and children and parents were expected to be respectful towards others, his business tripled and he got supportive calls and letters from all over the world; I sent him a “thank you” card.
I think discipline has become a bad word among some parents. They think discipline means harsh punishment and spanking or discipline will destroy their children’s self-esteem. Well, discipline hardly means beating your children. I know many wonderful parents who discipline without spanking. Damn, my mother could discipline us with a “look.” And as for self-esteem, well, I think we need to be less concerned about children’s self-esteem and more concerned about their character.
Yet, other than a few conversations with my friends, and discussing this on-line, I feel like I’m being totally unheard. When I do voice my opinions on unruly children and the parents who refuse to teach them manners and respect for others, I get branded a child-hater or anti-family. And being a childfree women makes those accusations are even more spiteful because some parents think I have no right to an opinion because I don’t have kids.
I don’t hate children. I absolutely adore smart, kind, well-mannered, funny kids. And I’m very appreciative of parents who are raising them to be that way. However, I just wish I ran into more children and parents like this. I’ve become sick and tired of ill-behaved children and “don’t give a shit” parents wherever I go-the movie theater, high-end restaurants, the mall, etc. Even my parents’ church has become like Romper Room.
When I was at Alverno, many of my fellow students had no qualms about bringing their children to class, the computer center, and the library. These kids would often run around and scream causing a great deal of stress for other students. The mothers did not give a shit how their children were affecting their classmates. One mother even said to us, “It’s a women’s college. Get used to it.” She also bragged about throwing her baby’s dirty diapers into the school parking lot. (However, it was sweet shadenfreude when I graduated with honors and she didn’t.) My co-editor of the school paper was so ticked about moms bringing their kids to every nook and cranny of the school, she wrote an editorial for the school paper about this issue. Plenty of the moms got up in arms, but a majority of the students, faculty, and staff supported her 100% (many who had kids themselves). Having kids running around the school was an insurance liability and they often were too distracting to the learning process. And yes, my school did have a day care center. Don’t know why the moms didn’t take advantage of it.
And just what do parents think they’re accomplishing by not disciplining their children? Do they think good manners and respect are automatically going to appear once their kids go to college and enter the workplace?
BTW, does anyone watch “Nanny 911” or “Super Nanny?” Those shows make my tubes tie themselves!