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Old 03-11-2005, 12:22 PM   #46
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Re: Ask The Old Married Guy

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15 years today

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Old 03-11-2005, 01:47 PM   #47
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What would you say was most important in forming your ideas about/expectations of marriage-your parents' marriage, your religious beliefs, your early experiences in your marriage, or something else?
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Old 03-11-2005, 05:01 PM   #48
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What would you say was most important in forming your ideas about/expectations of marriage-your parents' marriage, your religious beliefs, your early experiences in your marriage, or something else?
Awesome question. My ideas or expectations of marriage before I got married were influenced by my parents, but not in the way you were thinking. I think I approached my marriage by learning from the mistakes of my parents and avoiding the negative things my parents did. My parents divorced after I went to law school, but I could see the problems for years.


After getting married, I know I have changed as a result of my faith and the good fortune of having a couple of close male friends (also Christians). I think one thing men typically lack is a close male friend to openlu share the trials and tribulations of married life. While I always maintain my loyalty to my wife, I can share struggles and get guidance & direction from my friends. Mostly, I hear how they approach situations in their marriage (one friend is about 7-8 years older than me).
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Does this mean that your birthday thead will be here in FYM

And congratulations on 15 years
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Not to get too personal, but how do you keep your sex life going?

I hear so many married couples talk about how sex dies when they get married and it really brings me down.

My parents haven't had sex in years. My mother has admitted this to me.

I don't want to get married(not that I have choice right now) if this is the case.
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Congrats you two

Do you think your marriage, and the way you two fill in the marriage should be a example for other couples ?
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great thread NBC!

You are truly an inspiration and alot of the things you have written, I have certainly needed to hear right now.

Thank you!
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Not to get too personal, but how do you keep your sex life going?

I hear so many married couples talk about how sex dies when they get married and it really brings me down.

My parents haven't had sex in years. My mother has admitted this to me.

I don't want to get married(not that I have choice right now) if this is the case.
I think the thing that has kept the flame alive the most is communication. Open dialogue about what we want, frequency, taboo, etc. keeps things going nicely. I guess approaching sex as the physical aspect of the personal relationship makes communication key.

This doesn't mean you stick to a puritanical missionary position lifestyle - there are a lot of ways to explore and grow. If done together and not forced, it adds real fire to the relationship.
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Do you think your marriage, and the way you two fill in the marriage should be a example for other couples ?
Should be? No.

But the way I look at it, we've been through the highs and lows so that we can share our experiences with others. Maybe it can help, maybe it won't.
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How/when did you land in Newport Beach?
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Congrats on 15 years NBC!! Mr. Blu & I just celebrated 13 on 2/22. To steal a slogan from the Peace Corps, isn't being married the hardest job you've ever loved?

Of course, with 15 yrs under your belt, I'd have to guess the answer to that is a resounding YES! Hope you & the Mrs. have a wonderful evening!!
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February 2000

We had a home in Laguna Niguel, but our church and friends were all located in Newport. We felt it necessary to live closer so we could be more available.
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Congrats nbc & mrs. nbc!
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Bravo! 15 years is a lot.
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