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Old 03-10-2005, 09:42 AM   #16
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What does your wife think of this blue crack business?
Great question. When I first started with Interference, it was to get back up to speed on U2 (I was a “lapsed” fan) at the tail end of the Elevation tour. It soon grew into more.

Now, Interference is my first and only venture into an online community. I love being here. It brings a different dynamic to a relationship, however, as instead of setting up a time to go out with friends, I could plop down behind the computer and chat with my new blue crack friends. It wasn’t long before I’d come home from work, and while my wife was busy with some part of the evening routine, I would sneak off to the computer and check in. Eventually, this led to the “who are you talking to?” question.

Now, I had a choice regarding my blue crack addiction. Post when I was at work or when my wife wasn’t around and keep it off her radar. Or, I could talk to her about what I was doing. I chose the later.

We talk regularly about the topics that come up for discussion, especially the religious and political subjects. I try and post as if my wife reads all my comments. There are times, however, where I’ll use innuendo as humor that I imagine brush up against that line of if my wife were to read the post. I try and keep a “respectable distance” in my posts.

Bottom line: my wife has no interest in joining an online community (between two children and teaching a bible study class of 250-300 women, she just doesn’t have the time or energy); BUT she understands why I enjoy the forum. I think we both have grown based on our discussions of the issues raised on this board and it has given her a broader perspective in her teaching.
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Old 03-10-2005, 10:01 AM   #17
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Besides the time she was in Paris, did you and your wife ever spend a long time apart? How did you deal with that?
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Old 03-10-2005, 10:04 AM   #18
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There are times, however, where I’ll use innuendo as humor that I imagine brush up against that line of if my wife were to read the post. .
you? use innuendo? really?


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Old 03-10-2005, 10:27 AM   #19
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Besides the time she was in Paris, did you and your wife ever spend a long time apart? How did you deal with that?
I think we've been apart for more than a week only a few times since we first met.

1. When we broke up. This was from 1987 to 1989. I think I’ve posted the details before, but it dealt with her faith, my lack of faith and 2 Corinthians 6:14. It was only by God’s Grace that (i) I became a believer and (ii) that our paths crossed again.

2. My 6-week backpacking trip through Europe in 1989 after I took the California Bar exam (to become a lawyer). I spent more on postage than I did on food during those weeks as I sent home a postcard every day. I think (actually, I know) she still has all those cards.

3. A 2-week mission trip to Egypt in 1999. This was tough because it took almost a week before we figured out the local phone system.
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The biggest challenges are the preconceived notions or expectations that are brought into the relationship.
My dad's told me the same thing, so there's somebody else who can vouch for this one.

Congrats on 15 years of marriage! . Loved the story of how you and your wife met (hey, you're not alone-I met my first boyfriend in school, too-ironically, we were paired together for a "get to know your classmate" project at the beginning of that school year ).

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We will occasionally see older married couples (over 70) walking together holding hands.
...I've seen and heard about that, too, and I would love to be able to do the same thing someday. Considering how well you and your wife seem to be handling your marriage, something tells me you'll be doing that same thing yourselves .

Let's see...question to ask you...what's the most fun thing you and your wife have done together? Was it something big, or was it something simple and sweet?

By the way, you like new wave music? .

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Shucks, I forgot!

May you and Mrs. Crusader enjoy many more happy years.
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I have no questions (well, except for, how did your wife get so lucky to catch a nice guy like yourself! ) but I did want to step in and wish you a happy anniversary.
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What was your wedding song?

(I'm considering "Wonderful Tonight"... not sure though)
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Let's see...question to ask you...what's the most fun thing you and your wife have done together? Was it something big, or was it something simple and sweet?
Wow! I think you've stumped me. It must have been something simple and sweet. I don't know, we seem to have fun together all the time.

I've been horrible about planning vacations or date nights - I need to get better at that.
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What was your wedding song?

(I'm considering "Wonderful Tonight"... not sure though)
Ah, at least I remember the date.

No, seriously, she picked the song and I'm guessing it was something by Amy Grant. It's not in my collection.

Now, if she were here, I would say something like, "I was too dazzled by your beauty to remember the song."
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I have no questions (well, except for, how did your wife get so lucky to catch a nice guy like yourself! ) but I did want to step in and wish you a happy anniversary.
Thank you, but I am afraid that I am the lucky one.
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I try and post as if my wife reads all my comments.
It's funny, I do this, too--I post as if one of my friends might read it and bust me if I've embellished or been inappropriate. Kinda keeps me in line.
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Best Wishes to you and your wife.
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Congrats, have a great day!
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Congratulations man - on the marriage and the thread! God bless you guys!
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