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Old 03-13-2005, 07:16 PM   #46
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Did you find the depiction of lesbians in Basic Instinct unfair and derogatory?
Honestly I can't remember, I saw it so long ago. I still wasn't out yet.
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The main character, played by Sharon Stone, was bisexual. Her girlfriend was protrayed as a bit of a nutcase, which was why I asked the question. But if you don't remember the movie you're probably better off!
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Her girlfriend was protrayed as a bit of a nutcase, which was why I asked the question.
That's great! re: the movie!
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Oh no that sounds about right.
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How old are you? Maybe just a hint? And I'm curious as to when you came out and if was much harder then than it is now?
I am 43.

I came out in different stages, actually. I knew at an early age that I liked girls. I have a gay nephew that is 3 years younger than me and when we were kids, we would pretend to be Sonny and Cher and you can guess who played who!

I actually kissed a girl for the first time in 7th grade. For her, it was probably just a phase. For me, it was so much more. It was a turning point. I also had another girlfriend in high school, although we didn't call each other that. She was not gay so that was her experimentation phase.

I told my sister first. I think I was about 22 (1983). I was threatened by someone which forced me to tell my mom. It was by far the most difficult thing I have ever done. The whole Catholic guilt thing and disappointment to the family. As for Mr BAW, he told me he knew and I have never had this conversation with my father. I think with the rest of my family, it was just a given.

The only time that I ever felt that I "came out" was that first day at the Health Department 5 years ago. And it was totally accepted. In fact, the clerical staff would ask me questions, similar to this thread.

I think it puts people a little more at ease when you are comfortable within yourself and willing to share about your lifestyle so they can get a better understanding.

As far as it being easier to come out now, I am not sure. Certainly in the last 20 years, we see a little more acceptance but I think the whole coming out process is different for everyone.
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Thanks for that.
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Do you have guy;s hit on you all the time? And when they try and flirt with you do you just come out straight and say your a lesbian? Or what do you do to turn them down? Because I had an experience like this, and what are the signs that woman are lesbians?
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Do you have guy;s hit on you all the time? And when they try and flirt with you do you just come out straight and say your a lesbian? Or what do you do to turn them down? Because I had an experience like this, and what are the signs that woman are lesbians?
Guys hit on me a lot, sometimes they hit on me more when they find out I'm gay.

But you do the same thing you would if a woman hit on you and you aren't interested. Just be honest and don't play games.

You know one of my best friends is a straight man who gets hit on by gay men all the time. He's almost too polite about it because he tries really hard not to offend or come off like a homophobe. I tell him, just tell them the truth.

As far as signs go. This is what I have to say. Every sexuality has the extremes. You have very masculine straight men and those we now call metrosexuals. You have very masculine gay men and feminine gay men. You have butch lesbians and those that are more feminine. These lines of feminine and masculine are all made up by society. If you are out at a bar, party, etc you know when there is a connection, you can tell from across the room. Some will wear it on their sleeves and some won't, but that's life.
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what do you think of the movie chasing amy?
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i wasn't pissed wilbur, i just didn't understand (still don't really) what masterbation has to do with being a lesbian
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I'm sorry you feel that way. So all I'd like to ask is whatever you most feel like sharing about yourself that has absolutely nothing to do w/ you being gay.
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what do you think of the movie chasing amy?
I'm a big Kevin Smith fan.
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I'm sorry you feel that way. So all I'd like to ask is whatever you most feel like sharing about yourself that has absolutely nothing to do w/ you being gay.
That I'm just a cool chick.
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how can lesbians and gay men get along better?
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