Golightly Grrl
Refugee
We have a busy mom of 5 and a stay at home mom. Now ask the gal who's chosen not to have kids some questions.
U2democrat said:I also don't want to have kids...I want to focus on a career, and if i were to have kids i'd want to focus on them, which takes away from the career. People tell me that I'm selfish for feeling this way. Do you ever get anything like that? Do people look down on you for not starting a family?
U2Kitten said:
On the 'selfish' thing, I think that's hard to deny. Children do take a lot of your time, energy, freedom and money, and some people aren't willing to give those things up. So maybe that is 'selfish'. But so what?
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Or maybe you've just never had the desire.
U2Kitten said:
(and once again, you only quote the worst parts of my posts, leaving out the rest that further explains my meaning. You have done that a lot )
AcrobatMan said:the problem with mankind is that
they want to have sex but they dont want kids..and then you keep struggling ...against the nature and against everything...thinking that it will make you happy..
BonoVoxSupastar said:
No I read the rest of your post and I understand what you're saying, I don't disagree with anything you said except calling everyone who doesn't want to have kids as being selfish. Yes some may be but not all are. Would you call a nun selfish because she chose not to marry? Saying someone is selfish is to assume first of all that all couples should procreate. I think that's the wrong assumption to start with.
U2Kitten said:I also want to know, do those of you who don't want any and want to devote your life to other things think that people like me and Rosie are 'stupid' or not good enough for anything else but breeding, and that you're too good for wasting your life with diapers? I hear snickers like that sometimes
You've misconstrued everything I've said. You're still calling anyone who chooses not to have kids selfish and that's not fair.U2Kitten said:
Then you didn't understand my post! I did NOT say 'everyone sholud procreate' far from it! I may have thought that years ago but I certainly know better now! You, once again, are accusing me of extreme things I did not say and do not think! The nun thing, oh boy, you love your worst case scenarios!
Yes I read that part. "Didn't happen for some" but that's still assuming that they wanted and it just didn't happen. That's not the case and you're ignoring that fact.U2Kitten said:
Didn't you read the last part of my post where it said 'for whatever reason it just didn't happen for some'? You got me TOTALLY wrong, buster!
U2Kitten said:
What I mean by 'selfish' is that if some people don't want kids because it takes time and money away from things they'd rather do, then you can't call that not selfish, it is! But I'm not saying that's a bad thing because they shouldn't have kids anyway, and it's good that some people have the good sense to see that before they bring them into the world, because as several others have posted, there are also selfish and wrong reasons TO have a child, and that is not fair to the child!