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Old 03-19-2008, 05:18 PM   #16
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For the most part it happens in stages.

the first thing to move ppl towards cheating is unreciprocated love
the 2nd lack of commitment from a spouse
third your own conscience.
This is a very narrow view of why people cheat. Many people cheat, even if they have a spouse or loved one that is giving 100%.
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Old 03-19-2008, 05:39 PM   #17
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For me, I believe it all comes down to The Golden Rule. Ya know, do unto others and all that stuff. I simply ask myself if I would like to be cheated on and the answer, of course, is "no". So, if I didn't want it done to me, I wouldn't do it to someone else. Granted, I'm single now, so it's currently a non-issue for me, but when I was involved with my ex, I was faithful to her. Of course, I had fantasies of other women, but they were just that, fantasies. I'd break up with a woman first, instead of cheating on her. If someone is cheating, then there are serious problems in the relationship.
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Old 03-19-2008, 05:47 PM   #18
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This is a very narrow view of why people cheat. Many people cheat, even if they have a spouse or loved one that is giving 100%.
Not narrow at all, I said in most cases.

Some ppl who love their spouses do cheat because they may have a psycological disorder.

I'm not going to disect every reason for cheating; ie I said in most cases.

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Re: Re: Re: Are We Wired To Cheat On Our Mates?

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I disagree entirely.



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ve their spouses do cheat because they may have a psycological disorder.



could it be demonic possession?
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could it be demonic possession?

Could it be....SATAN?!?
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Old 03-19-2008, 06:15 PM   #22
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could it be demonic possession?
not possession.

but influence no doubt, the preception that a person is validated my sexual conquests, etc.

very sad.

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not possession.

but influence no doubt, the preception that a person is validated my sexual conquests, etc.

very sad.

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you know,

you're far more Buddhist than you think.
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Not narrow at all, I said in most cases.

Some ppl who love their spouses do cheat because they may have a psycological disorder.

I'm not going to disect every reason for cheating; ie I said in most cases.

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Most marriage counselors would disagree with you.
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What makes people choose to be monogamous?
Mutual benefit, especially for the 50% of their DNA that they suppose is slushing about in their presumed offspring. Romantic love gives way to long term attatchment; the mechanism for this in the brain improves the chances of the long term father sticking around to support the child.

For women sex can have a huge cost with little benefit, it pays for them to be selective. For men they can dump the DNA and run. At the end of the day it is what benefits the next generation the most, it would be interesting to see the effectiveness of male cheating as a mating strategy, having children raised with the resources of another man.

The effects of long term partnerships plays a role in mate selection and what women consider attractive, there was a cool paper looking at how preference shifts between more masculine and more feminine characteristics on composites of men varies with ovulation cycles.
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you know,

you're far more Buddhist than you think.
Actually this is why Orthodox Christianity has such a hard time with LDS Christianity. LDS Christianity is Unorthodox Christianity and thinks way outside of the box, due to what was revealed to the Prophet Joseph Smith.

Fundamentalist Christians scream that we are mystical, new age spiritualists and tremble with contempt, while we are secure in the knowledge that the Heavens have been opened again and humankind is now living in the best age that the world has ever known.

Fundamentalists are on dial up; we're on High Speed.




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I do not think I am wired correctly.

I have not ever been able to physically connect with someone without establishing an emotional connection to the person.

Soooooooooooooooo my wife would say that she does not worry about me connecting physically with someone, because that would be the FINAL thing.

I am much more conscious about making sure I do not make emotional connections that are interfering with the emotional connections that belong to my wife.

If I am talking gibberish, I apologize.
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If I am talking gibberish, I apologize.


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^ Second that

I intend on living by the old adage, You can't make an emotional connection, if you only pay for the hour
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I do not think I am wired correctly.

I have not ever been able to physically connect with someone without establishing an emotional connection to the person.
I'd say that's correct wiring. Emotional infidelity is much worse, and you can have emotional infidelity without physical infidelity.
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