AvsGirl41 said:
I am 23 and I've been single for 23 years. 
I don't know what the problem is. I am constantly told by guys (and girls) that I'm attractive, smart, funny, cool, ad infinitium. But I don't get asked out. I've had a handful of dates and they never came back for a second try. No one even has attempted to use me!!
Some of my friends think I'm too intimidating and guys think I'll just say no. Others tell me that because I didn't go to high school, I missed out on the "prime dating years." Certainly, this seems to be true--everyone I run into hooked up in high school and are joined at the hip. I'm also told it's the school I go to--we don't live on campus, we all work--but other people manage it here. 4 years of college and no dates is pretty bizarre. I don't go out alot, because I don't have a large social circle, but I encounter alot of people every day on campus so you'd think I'd meet someone.
A few think I'm too picky--and this might be true if I refused every guy who wasn't Gerard Butler, but I don't really have any guys to refuse! I've done the match.com thing and that was a disaster, never again. Since then, I definitely haven't been "looking" and it would seem no one has been looking for me either.
I think Nature has marked me and kicked me out of the gene pool. I try not to think about it. It just makes me incredibly depressed.
First of all, stay picky. The worst thing one can do is compromise their beliefs/wants in order to achieve a goal. It simply would not work. Also, it's hard to just walk up to some girl on campus and ask her out. I don't know of too many people that attended a commuter school/did not live on campus who still managed to have romantic relationships with classmates. I found that during my college years, when I commuted and did not live in a campus, that most of my friends met their boy/girlfriends at our respective jobs. Don't know if that is universally applicable, but, in my experience, it was common.
I wish I had good advice for you, but, you did not necessarily post looking for advice....and, I'm in no position to give any, I think. I just know that I've made the most of my life, single or not, and I really have few regrets....and my regrets are minor. I've stayed true to my beliefs, my values, my morals...and to my friends and to my family.....and the # of bad days I have regarding being single are crushed under the weight of all the good days I have.
I've seen some of your prior posts and am sure that someone as smart, nice and down to earth as yourself will eventually find someone special, who finds you equally special...and you'll find this person on your terms.
Nature has done nothing to you except give you the aforementioned attributes, you've not been kicked out of anything. Stay upbeat and enjoy the things you do have and enjoy. Easier said than done, I know, but, I've got nothing more profound to say. I'll shut up now.
. It's tough because I see him go after all these girls that are bad for him, he get way too emotionally invested in them too soon out of insecurity, and then he gets his heart broken.
