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Old 11-17-2005, 07:37 PM   #16
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We have no idea what the mother had already done in her attempts at teaching her daughter what she needed to do before resorting to the sign. Personally, I think that one hour standing on a corner isn't going to hurt the girl. It's called "tough love" and a big reality check too. If it works, and it's fairly harmless then go for it.
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We have no idea what the mother had already done in her attempts at teaching her daughter what she needed to do before resorting to the sign. Personally, I think that one hour standing on a corner isn't going to hurt the girl. It's called "tough love" and a big reality check too. If it works, and it's fairly harmless then go for it.
Agreed. I don't think this is a horrible punishment, I don't think it's cruel and I don't think it's fair to judge this mother's parenting skills based on this one incident.
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Old 11-17-2005, 08:01 PM   #18
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Fact is, I think the mother came up with a great idea. After hearing about this initially I told a friend that that mom is my new hero LOL
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Old 11-18-2005, 01:52 AM   #19
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Harsh punishment can be conducted in a loving way - such that the recipient knows the reason for the punishment and what the parent is trying to accomplish.
does that include physical violence?

parents who beat their children and then say they "did it out of love" are such assholes.
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Old 11-18-2005, 01:58 AM   #20
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Well I had both, I'd rather have a beating than emotional abuse. The scars heal much quicker from a beating.
I don´t know, I think beating is a physical abuse as well as an emotional one.
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Old 11-18-2005, 02:08 AM   #21
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What qualifies beating children these days?

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Old 11-18-2005, 02:10 AM   #22
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I don´t know, I think beating is a physical abuse as well as an emotional one.
I agree.

I would never forgive anyone who hit me. Never.
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We have no idea what the mother had already done in her attempts at teaching her daughter what she needed to do before resorting to the sign. Personally, I think that one hour standing on a corner isn't going to hurt the girl. It's called "tough love" and a big reality check too. If it works, and it's fairly harmless then go for it.


Have to agree. This is no worse than making kids take things back to a shop and suffer the humiliation etc of having to own up and apologise after stealing or being made to pick up rubbish in front of their friends at school after dropping stuff on the ground.

Don't do your homework, don't get a decent education this is where you could end up. I think this is pretty effective parenting.
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This is no worse than making kids take things back to a shop and suffer the humiliation etc of having to own up and apologise after stealing or being made to pick up rubbish in front of their friends at school after dropping stuff on the ground.
I don't see these things as being analogous at all. Making a child return stolen merchandise to the store they took it from, or pick up trash they themselves threw in the schoolyard, is indeed appropriate because it makes them directly accountable to the specific people wronged by their specific actions. This child, however, hadn't committed any offense against the public at large, which is surely what random strangers driving by in an intersection represents.
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I do not support this, I think it's a proof of incapacity, just like spanking. There are millions and millions of kids out there who have been 'cured' from the same attitude, without being embarrassed in public.
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I agree.

I would never forgive anyone who hit me. Never.
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I think it's funny. I support it. Life is full of humiliation, yet much of it can be avoided. I think that kid got a good lesson here.
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I do not support this, I think it's a proof of incapacity, just like spanking. There are millions and millions of kids out there who have been 'cured' from the same attitude, without being embarrassed in public.
That is quite a broad statement - anything to back it up? Are these millions and millions of kids in the same situation as this parent & child?

If there was such a solution that solved the problem for millions and millions of kids, all parents would own the book.
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I agree.

I would never forgive anyone who hit me. Never.
Sounds like you believe in absolutes.
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I agree.

I would never forgive anyone who hit me. Never.
well.... my mom spanked me when I was child cuz I used to be violent to my young sister and other kids ( did things like push them against the floor, stuck their fingers in doors, hitting them in the head).... I remember that she always tried to talk to me and make me understand that hitting my sister was wrong (and all that "we love you both" thing ) , and I know I can imagine how frustrated she felt when I didn't change my attitude after the talks. I'm not justifing her, cuz I'm sure that there were better ways to solve that problem, but I can't have bad feelings for her.
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