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Old 06-22-2007, 09:22 AM   #1
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16 Year Old Marries Her 40 Year Old High School Track Coach

The parents signed the consent forms, they said they had to move on or it was going to kill them.

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Story?id=3305652&page=1

Two different comments there on the story-many people of course find fault with the parents. What would you do?

I am 79 years old, my wife is 52 years old. We have been happily married for 24 years. Age difference is not always bad. Maybe it is time to recognize that children mature at different ages. If the couple is compatible and enjoy and understand each other's needs, setting an arbitrary age for "age of consent" may not be the best for everyone. This couple should be given a chance to show their commitment to each other and their athletic dreams. I have five children, two of them girls. Although I can't imagine how I would feel about one of them marring an older man when they were 16, but it is better to marry a successful, intelegent, mature man than an immature, ignorant, possibly addicted kid their own age. I think they are contributing tremendously to each other's ego and enjoyment. In twenty years he will be 60 and she will be 36. Is that an unusual match? If things don't work out for her, there is always a way out, divorce. Love happens. Leave them alone and wish them the best life has to offer

I wonder if the schools at least fired him and left him unemployable...as he should be he's a predator without a conscience
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Her parents "gave in" and signed the consent forms just because her daughter was being a brat about it? That's how it looks to me. Teenagers are basically always brats when they don't get their way, it doesn't mean you give them their way...especially with something as major as this. I do think it's overly dramatic of her parents to say that she "threw it all away" though. It's not like her life is over, but it's definitely an unexpected turn.
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I see this marriage lasting forever




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What about a 40 year old man being attracted to and sexually involved with a 16 year old girl? And they can legally get married but two 40 year old men or women can't in most states

What is it was a 40 year old woman with a 16 year old boy, would parents sign consent for that as well?
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It worked for Mry Kat Letourneau so why not these guys
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His parents didn't have to sign a consent for them to get married, he wasn't 16 was he, when they eventually got married?. I'd also hardly consider that relationship and ideal or an example of how this sort of relationship could work. Personally if I was a parent of a 16 year old I would never want them involved with or marrying a 40 year old-let alone a teacher or a coach. A person in that sort of position should never take advantage of that and have a romantic or sexual relationship.

Like it says in the story..

"With most teenagers, they're not sure yet who's who and what's what and what should be done," said Henry Paul, author of the book "Is My Teenager OK?" "It's obviously up to the adult figure to set the boundaries."
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Good luck to them
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I'm really surprised that the parents "gave in" and signed the consent form. So what, she gave them the silent treatment?
I wonder if she is going to stay in school.
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As long as they are protecting the sanctity of marriage...
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"She could have done anything," Betty said. "She could have set the world on fire. She threw it all away."
What bullshit. What utter and complete bullshit. Does this mother take NO responsiblity for her role in all of this? Signing the consent form because her bratty daughter stopped speaking to her???? It's pretty obvious who ran that house

I wonder how Betty is going to feel in a year or two when when it all falls apart and her daughter says "I hate you, why did you let me do this?"
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I really have to wonder about the coach. They started dating when she was 14?? Hello??? Huge, huge red flags there.
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If they're really in love, why not? Age is just a number.
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If they're really in love, why not? Age is just a number.


Really? So it's okay for 38 year old teachers to have sex with 14 year students, as long as they are "in love?"

I have nothing against an age difference, there is a considerable one in my own marriage. But I was 21 when we met, not 14.

That teacher is nothing better than a child molester in my eyes.
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What is it was a 40 year old woman with a 16 year old boy, would parents sign consent for that as well?
How do you want to compare it? You would have to ask the same parents, and they could give you a hypothetical answer, probably a yes.
Other parents would decide differently. In both cases.

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If they're really in love, why not? Age is just a number.
At some age it is just a number. Up to that age, the whole person is still in development. Then it's not just a number. With 14 or 16 you are definitely some years away from the age when it just becomes a number.
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I have not read all of the information on this.

But, I will say if she were 20 and he was 44 it would and should be a non issue for all.

The fact that she is 16 does not set right with me
and I have not checked what the age of consent is in their particular state.


But with this case
letting them get married may have been the best solution.

If a 16 year old married a 19 year old,
that marriage would have many challenges also and would have a high likelihood of ending in divorce.
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