It's Officially - How NOT To Plan A Wedding

[joyfulgirl]

I think you're supposed to include stuff for every budget, kitchen towels to big TVs. A friend of mine who just got married comes from some serious big time money and so her registry included big ticket items. She also has poor artsy type friends and so she included small stuff, too. She actually HATED the whole idea of the registry but apparently it was her friends and family who begged for it so they'd know what to get. She and her husband had already been living together for years and both being in their late 30s pretty much already had everything, so people really wanted some ideas of what to get.

Now my big beef with all of this is, I don't plan to get married. I mean I might, but it's not a burning desire. Where is my 'welcome to your single life, joyfulgirl!!' party? The couple I just mentioned have EVERYTHING and I have very little, yet I was expected to spend at least $100 on a gift for them when I don't even have matching silverware myself.

I really hate perpetuating these rituals while singles and gays' lives are never validated with such rituals. We keep forking over the gifts and the money to couples so they can have all they need for their lives while we have to just buy our own damn toasters.

 

[nbcrusader]

A friend of mine who just got married comes from some serious big time money and so her registry included big ticket items.

I think this is key - know your audience (the people you've invited).

In my employee's situation, neither he nor his fiance come from big money. Many of the people invited are college age.

The commercialization of weddings fuels a lot of this. Lacking maturity, a couple may treat registering like an open buffet.

 

[joyfulgirl]

I don't want to go to any more weddings. This last one raked me over the coals with all the money I spent. I was broke from the haircut, the dress and shoes before I even went shopping for a gift. My new strategy is to decline all wedding invitations, being very sorry that I can't attend, and then send a nice gift but not the $100 one I would buy if I attended the wedding. This strategy is bound to work for me since everyone who can get married has already gotten married (until, God help me, all my gay friends start getting married--if that happens I will have to file bankruptcy, lol...)

 

[zoney!]

Now my big beef with all of this is, I don't plan to get married.

Will you marry me??????

 

[fah]

It's been over 30 minutes and she hasn't responded. Don't give up hope.

 

[joyfulgirl]

When I tried to quote & respond to zoney using only the flirt smilie, I received this never-before-seen message:

"You have included too many images in your signature or in your previous post. Please go back and correct the problem and then continue again.

Images include use of smilies, the vB code

 

[JessicaAnn]

 

[fah]

When I tried to quote & respond to zoney using only the flirt smilie, I received this never-before-seen message:

"You have included too many images in your signature or in your previous post. Please go back and correct the problem and then continue again.

Images include use of smilies, the vB code tag and HTML <img> tags. The use of these is all subject to them being enabled by the administrator." [/B][/QUOTE]

But you still haven't answered his question

 

[joyfulgirl]

But you still haven't answered his question

There is one small obstacle. Neither of us wants to get married.







But do you think we could get some really cool stuff from the Interference crowd?

 

[fah]

You never know, you could always start a registry thread and see what gifts we would buy for the happy couple.

 

[zoney!]

I used ten smilies....not allowing you to use any...selfish, I know.

But do you think we could get some really cool stuff from the Interference crowd?

I like the gift registry thread idea.

IO: joyful and zoney! are shacking up.....no sporks, please.

 

[JessicaAnn]

Mr. & Mrs. Zoneful,

I am pleased to present my gift to you ... a matching set of lawn gnomes

 

[joyfulgirl]

Excuse me, but that's zonefulexclamationpoint to you.

 

[meegannie]

 

[fah]

I wanted to give them garden gnomes...

Thanks a lot

 

[joyfulgirl]

He hates my clogs. It's never going to work.

 

[JessicaAnn]

Geee ... that marraige was even shorter than Britney's

 

[fah]

Remember to write thank you notes

 

[Angela Harlem]

which culture is it where the guests all pin money to the bride's dress? greeks or macedonians or something?

doesn't matter how much you spent on the do itself, anyone who's tied the knot knows that setting up house for you and your newly wedded costs an obscene amount of money.

 

[Salome]

I think I shall use the coming weekend to plan my wedding

 

[JessicaAnn]

which culture is it where the guests all pin money to the bride's dress? greeks or macedonians or something?

I have actually heard of a lot of different cultures, including Greek, Italian, Polish, Ukranian ... Must be a European thing.

 

[beli]

which culture is it where the guests all pin money to the bride's dress? greeks or macedonians or something?

strippers and poll dancers.

 

[Salome]

polish?

 

[JessicaAnn]

 

[fah]

I think I shall use the coming weekend to plan my wedding

Does the planning include finding a bride?

 

[Salome]

neh, with a bride it would take at least twice as long to plan the wedding
and I really want to have it done this weekend

 

[fah]

I wish you and you all the best then.

Are you registered anywhere?

 

[Salome]

instead of gifts
I want to be showered with love


and beer

 

[fah]

You can shower yourself with your love.

Thanks, I would love a beer

 

[Salome]

ok, party will be somewhere in between holland and canada then
I'm terrible with maps though
so it will be at angie's place