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Old 01-12-2002, 01:11 AM   #1
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Why do women like assholes?

At the end of 2000, I broke up with my longtime girlfriend. Through most of 2001, I took a much needed and much deserved break from dating. It was nice. I started dating in the fall, and three times I've gotten the "we shouldn't see each other anymore, you're too nice." I'm too nice? WTF?

A little about me. I'm not one of those sensitive pussies who sits around and recites poetry, or tells a girl I love her prematurely. I only demand to go out with a girl maybe once a week. I'm a farmer, so I've got that whole "rugged" thing going. But I try to treat women with respect, because that's just the way I am.

But I talked to a bunch of girls, and they say they like guys who are assholes to them. They like the chase....the thrill of victory after taming a guy who treats them like shit. They say that if a guy likes them, then there's not a challenge or a thrill out of it.....

I'm not saying all women are terrible people. I'm just wondering why women like the assholes. Girls, your perspective on this topic would be welcomed.

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Old 01-12-2002, 01:35 AM   #2
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i have been in the same situation (except i'm not a farmer) and i did my own research and my girl friends that i talked to said that they love a challenge, which is b.s.

as men, we have to make the first move to ask them out (99% of the time) and if we do, then they know we want them and it's not a challenge for them. it's no win man..

as far as being assholes, it's just that us nice guys finish last.

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Old 01-12-2002, 01:58 AM   #3
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I don't like assholes, nor do I hang around them. But it is a trend I've noticed in many of my female peers.
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Speaking for myself, I don't like assholes.

Find me a nice guy who won't play games, I'm there. Women wanting to play games, those are the ones usually who go for the asshole-types. They deserve each other, if you ask me.



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Until I grew to fully respect and know myself, I went out with "assholes."

Once I learned to love myself, I went out with the nice guy who always finished last.
He's first in my book now
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Until I grew to fully respect and know myself, I went out with "assholes."

Once I learned to love myself, I went out with the nice guy who always finished last.
He's first in my book now
Yay, there's hope!

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I'm proud to say my boyfriend is what those girls would call wimpy

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At the end of 2000, I broke up with my longtime girlfriend. Through most of 2001, I took a much needed and much deserved break from dating. It was nice. I started dating in the fall, and three times I've gotten the "we shouldn't see each other anymore, you're too nice." I'm too nice? WTF?

Be grateful for this. Taking their words at face value, it means that those girls have a tendency to wreck "nice guys".
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Hmmm-I think it may have to do with having issues of low self-esteem, etc.-and your past history that may make you feel you somehow don't 'deserve' to be treated well-just what Hello Angel said.

Speaking for myself-I often feel this way, and it's still a constant struggle. I want respect-I don't want an a**hole. But I also don't want someone who begins to take me for granted so much that he becomes complacent and 'boring'-maybe that's where the lack of a 'thrill' begins.

I've had enough of being treated like crap-for me a 'victory' would be to have someone not treat me like that.
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I don't like assholes! I do know lots of girls who are with them and I don't know why. I mean I know this one girl who goes with this geek with no job who puts her down and he looks and talks like Barney Rubble and she idolizes him! It makes me sick!

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Ive noticed the same thing, and that "too nice thing" Ive had that before too like 20 times too many... I dont understand it personally, why rather than have someone treat them well and whos pretty much garunteed to never hurt them intentionally, they would choose someone who in a month will be cheating on them, treats them like crap, and guards them covetously from having any guy friends. But hell, not like it matters, I couldnt get a gf if I paid her anyway......
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Old 01-12-2002, 11:38 AM   #14
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i have been in the same situation (except i'm not a farmer)
sorry to intrude but i just choked on my cheerios when i read that.

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Why do women like assholes?
because they are very handy when you need to go to the toilet?

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