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Sexual Compatability 2 4.76%
Chemistry...there's just something about them... 15 35.71%
Emotional Security 20 47.62%
Financial Security 0 0%
Not fighting 5 11.90%
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Old 08-19-2003, 02:46 PM   #1
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What is your most important priority for a lasting relationship?

Is it a strong sex life? Chemistry? Financial security? Something else? I'd be curious to see what people prioritize as key to a lasting, fulfilled relationship.
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Old 08-19-2003, 02:57 PM   #2
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not fighting. i love a good arguement. most people do. but usually they can turn into full-fledged fights. gotta avoid that.
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Old 08-19-2003, 03:09 PM   #3
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My boyfriend of five years is my best friend in the world, and I am his. Communication is key, and when and if a problem arises, we talk it out, sometimes ad nauseum, but we work it out no matter what. We live and work together, and are around each other 24/7 - it gets better every day.
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If I am with someone, we have to be friends. Definitely.
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A common faith and a shared commitment to that faith.


Also, a shared understanding of love is essential. When I hear that a lasting relationship is a 50-50 endeavor, I laugh. True sacrificial love makes a relationship a 100%-100% endeavor. When both parties subscribe to this, then you have a lasting relationship.
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Old 08-19-2003, 03:26 PM   #6
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I think sexual compatability is very under-rated. People often shy away from sex as a major component of a relationship, but in the end it is. That desire, flame, whatever, can make love even greater over time, and if it's not there, well, you're just pretending. Never forget the spark that started the fire.
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wow it has been several years since i have had a long term relationship. i do think about things often on what was needed to help the relationship last. i do think faith is important as well as sexual chemistry.
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I said emotional security. I think chemistry can start a relationship but after that you have to have the trust and the commitment to carry it through the every-days of life (it's the every-days of life that are hard, not necessarily those "rough times" that only last a week). I think that chemistry & the emotional security can lead to a strong sexual compatability, and the commitment to each other will lead to financial security (i.e. people will want to better their situations for themselves and their partner). I also like what nbcrusader said about a shared understanding of love.
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Old 08-19-2003, 03:40 PM   #9
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I can honestly say that I have no idea anymore

the little that I do know is that emotional security has become a more important notion to me
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Personally I think its a combo of all the choices listed that make a great relationship and definately communication is key in a relationship bc without communication you have nothing.
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I voted emotional security but I'm surprised trust isnt up there
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Old 08-19-2003, 04:14 PM   #12
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I have all of the above w/ my friends and family. Only w/ my girl does the sexual compatability thingy come into play.
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Actually, there were a few categories I wanted to add after I had put it up, but couldn't edit the poll choices!
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Salome's second usefull advice in 3+ years

only mods can edit polls

so if you mail/pm a mod the changes you want she/he can do that for you


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Communication and trust are two crucial components in my marriage, but the one that has been most important is realistic expectations. So many couples think that their "soulmate" will make everything good better and everything bad disappear when they get into a long-term relationship, especially marriage. Not so. They think that the sexual relationship will always stay on fire, but it probably won't. They think that they will feel "whole" and that the other person will complete them, but the only person who can make you feel whole is yourself. If my husband and I are fighting or having an issue, we try to find out what is it we're expecting from the other person. Usually it is something the other person doesn't know is being expected of them or it's something the other person can't fulfill (e.g., my husband can't make my crappy job any better).

So that's my answer. If you realize that two people are imperfect beings and that a relationship is not the answer to all your life's problems, you're headed down the right road. That's when you can focus on trust, communication, honesty, etc.

Edit: Reading back over that, it's awfully simplistic. I can assure you our marriage has many other facets to it.
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