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Old 02-25-2005, 11:03 AM   #1
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Strip Clubs in Relationships

I was wondering what the general consensus was in blue crack about going to strip clubs while you're in relationships (dating or married). Do you have a problem with your "other" going to strip clubs? I know some people blow it off and dont care, and others think of it as a form of cheating.

I ask because I'm going up to Baltimore to the top strip club out there (a famous porn star is performing). I've never been really into strip clubs but my best friends are driving up there and want to make a night out of it at the local bars and that club. And my new girlfriend is tripping out a little bit over it. I don't see the big deal.

Thoughts?
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thoughts? ya don't tell her, and then if she finds out after the fact, ya tell her "eh i'm sorry... that wasn't what we set out to do but after a few cocktails the guys wanted to go. i wasn't gonna hang around a strange city by myself, so i tagged along. the whole time i was thinking of you though, i sware."




no i haven't used that before


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I could truly care less if my boyfriend went to a strip club, and he could care less if I went to one. What matters most is where his is. Hell, I'd go to one with him. There's no shame in my game.
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Considering that the primary reason for going to a strip club is to lust over another woman, what do you think it says to your girlfriend?

Where do you place the value of the relationship in comparison to the "value" of attending the strip club?
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no i haven't used that before


honestly



really



i sware


i was expecting a good response from u.

i didnt tell her btw, friend of mine's girlfriend told her.

but i would have.

seriously.

i swear.
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I lust after people all the time. So does he. It's ok to look. I dunno. I'm really one of the least petty girlfriends I've ever met.
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I could truly care less if my boyfriend went to a strip club, and he could care less if I went to one. What matters most is where his is. Hell, I'd go to one with him. There's no shame in my game.
thats 100% how i feel. the last part is cool as hell, btw.

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I lust after people all the time. So does he. It's ok to look. I dunno. I'm really one of the least petty girlfriends I've ever met.
i think it's natural to look, its in our nature to do so. Whether you act on it or not is when it becomes an issue
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What Hello Angel said sums it up for me.

As far as I'm concerned, a little freedom goes a long way in a commited relationship.
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Once upon a time I used to have a massive problem with boyfriends of mine going to strip clubs. Terrible arguments would break out because of them. Then I realized I was in a losing battle and just grew tired of me being jealous and upset over them.

I don't care about them now. I have friends who used to strip and I now have a different view point about the clubs. If it is something that a guy that I am seeing wants to do, then fine go for it. He can spend all the money he wants there as long as it is not my money.

Hell some friends of mine make it a night to go with their girlfriends. It works for some people.


I think it only becomes a problem, if the person who goes there becomes obessed with the strip clubs and start to develop a twisted idea of how women are and what they should be.
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I think its a bad idea RademR.

I'll elaborate later.
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Realize that in most situations where a person says "I have no problem with this" - it sounds as if it is a mutual thing between the two parties.

Here, it is clear that your girlfriend has a problem with this.
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Here, it is clear that your girlfriend has a problem with this.
thats a good point. However, she wasnt like THAT upset or anything. I could just tell in her voice that she didnt want me to go, and when I asked her she said she'd prefer if I didnt, but in the end she didn't care. Ya right....

the situation i'm in isnt a big deal, it just made me think about how others deal with the situation. I know there are people on opposites sides on this issue.
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What Hello Angel said sums it up for me.

As far as I'm concerned, a little freedom goes a long way in a commited relationship.
BAW needn't worry about me going; I haven't been to a strip joint since I was 18 .. some 35 years ago...there's nothing to 'em. and its a waste of time and money..

As far as her going, I wouldn't expect that she'd go by herself but if it was with a group of gals, I'd say enjoy it...

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It doesn't bother me. I have gone to strip clubs while in a relationship, both alone and with my bf.
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I think it only becomes a problem, if the person who goes there becomes obessed with the strip clubs and start to develop a twisted idea of how women are and what they should be.
I agree 100 percent.

A lot of guys with wives and girlfriends go to strip clubs, but if they obsess over the girls and start going every single weekend, then that's a big problem.
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