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Old 02-25-2005, 12:02 PM   #16
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I think it only becomes a problem, if the person who goes there becomes obessed with the strip clubs and start to develop a twisted idea of how women are and what they should be.
Excellent point.

Same thing with pornography. Every viewing begins to twist the idea of how women are and what they should be.




Go to the strip club and you will inevitably compare your girlfriend to the stripper at some level.
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The only time I've ever been is for bachelor parties. They aren't my thing. I don't get it, you pay money for nothing.

If you use them as a substitute, or they begin to warp your view of women then it becomes a problem.
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I tell you what — I was in my best friend's wedding this summer and he and a bunch of other guys went to a strip club after we played some poker at the bachelor party. (I won the entire tournament —*first time playing for money!) I declined to go to the club (for personal reasons and because I knew my wife would be bothered by it). My friends respected me (you know, because they're my friends) and they went, spent a crap load of money and saw naked women dance and do whatever. Then they went home to upset wives/girlfriends. I went home and my wife said she felt so respected by my decision and we ended up having ...a great night together. I don't regret my decision one bit.
Also, just because a woman says it doesn't bother her, it probably does. It's almost like an iceberg. What you see as her reaction to you wanting to go may be attached to a larger reaction that's within her (under the water so to speak.) That's just been my experience, and I've had numerous chances to go with friends to strip clubs while I've been in relationships, but I've always declined. I've always been happy about my decisions too.
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What I find odd is that the women who so often go nuts over their boyfriends/husbands going to strip clubs would probably think nothing of going to a Chippendales show.

How do guys feel about women going to see male strippers?

I don't know that I would care if my boyfriend went, especially if he was open about it. It's what they don't tell you about that you have to worry.
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Also, just because a woman says it doesn't bother her, it probably does.
Not unless you are with an honest woman.
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Good point BVS. I didn't mean all women are like that. I just think it's something to consider when in this situation.
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Not unless you are with an honest woman.
Isn't that a little harsh on women who are trying to balance understanding the man's desire with her own feelings on the subject.

It's a two way street - men need to be able to communicated and understand the women's position as well.
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As far as her going, I wouldn't expect that she'd go by herself but if it was with a group of gals, I'd say enjoy it...


I think I know what Char and I are doing next time we see each other...
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Women should charge their boyfriends a dollar everytime they look them in the eye and smile.
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i can only speak for myself on this, and i do have strong opinions about why i don't think it's a good idea. a lot of women chalk up their intense dislike of their men going off to ogle naked women as irrational jealousy. i don't think that's the root of the problem. it's the fact that a lot of men never stop to think about the overarching implications of the strip club--it's demeaning and disrespectful to women in general. (not to mention tacky, cheap, and incredibly unoriginal.) reducing women to sexual objects to leer at, to throw money at, all for some fleeting sense of gratification.

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Same thing with pornography. Every viewing begins to twist the idea of how women are and what they should be.
i agree. extensions of the same problem.
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Amen dandy!
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Isn't that a little harsh on women who are trying to balance understanding the man's desire with her own feelings on the subject.

It's a two way street - men need to be able to communicated and understand the women's position as well.
I don't think so.

Yes it's a two way street. But honestly is the only way. If acting like you're OK but you really aren't, you aren't helping anyone. Keeping things like that just build up. Nothing is worse than built up anger. Believe me I speak from experience.
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Eh, its overrated and an incredible waste of money.

If you are in a relationship and she doesnt like it, why go? Its just not worth it. It is a little disrespectful to the girl. Save yourself some money. The only way I can see going is for some type of special occasion, like a buddies bachelor party. Then its more of a traveling party that has that as one of the stops. It may just be me, but it seems odd to want to go there just because its friday.

Honestly though I dont think most guys that go or have gone would actually want to get together with any of the girls that work there and I doubdt the girls would want to get together with them either! Certainly didnt give me a false perspective of what women should be like. It made me appreciate the girls that werent there if anything.
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I agree they're overrated but don't think it's a big deal for either party to go to one.
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God Bless Hot Strippers

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