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Old 04-11-2006, 12:53 AM   #46
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two wrongs never make a right.
But two negatives can make a positive.


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Old 04-11-2006, 01:12 AM   #47
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Granted, it doesn't justify the woman's rudeness in the first place, but imagine how the world would be if every time anyone someone was treated rudely, we impulsively responded with an equal or greater level of rudeness and contempt. No thanks.
Agreed.

That was a nice analogy with the cakes and such too, I'm going to write that down
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Old 04-11-2006, 01:27 AM   #48
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Agreed.

That was a nice analogy with the cakes and such too, I'm going to write that down
Thanks I rather liked it as well, since I know I've been guilty of the same sorts of thoughts. I believe he was trying to illustrate the fundamental attribution error - that we attribute negative outcomes with others' traits and positive outcomes with their situation, while attributing positive outcomes to our own traits and negative outcomes to our situation. In this case, assumptions have been made that the negativity from the woman was a result of the her traits (rudeness), but the negativity of Jesse was a result of his situation (disability). However, consider this example and you can see how common, yet inaccurate it really is: you get a good grade and you say it's b/c you studied hard and are smart, but you get a bad grade and say it's b/c the prof makes the tests too hard or something bad happened that made it impossible for you to study. Or, you see someone fall on the sidewalk and think "what a klutz!" but when you fall in the same spot you say "well I tripped on the crack there!".

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try adding "just like me" to anything rude thing you think or say about someone else. it will change your perspective.

for instance, when road rage creeps in and someone cuts you off and you start screaming expletives in your car, add the "just like me" at the end and you will soon begin to think better of others.

because if we are all one then we are certainly all alike, therefore, in this case, jesse is being just like the woman. i don't believe there is a degree to the rudeness. it just is.

just my two cents.


it also works with compliments too!
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try adding "just like me" to anything rude thing you think or say about someone else. it will change your perspective.

for instance, when road rage creeps in and someone cuts you off and you start screaming expletives in your car, add the "just like me" at the end and you will soon begin to think better of others.

because if we are all one then we are certainly all alike, therefore, in this case, jesse is being just like the woman. i don't believe there is a degree to the rudeness. it just is.

just my two cents.


it also works with compliments too!

This is excellent advice, Doozer. Excellent! It really does work too. The world would be such a better place if we were all one and there was a common understanding and respect for one another as human beings.

And thanks Joyful and db for the comments on my earlier post. Kill them with kindness gets 'em every time I use it. It's almost like it helps the rude person who made a snide comment or who did something derogatory stop to think and then feel foolish for a moment, but gives them the chance to save face and relate back in a positive way. It's all good. Or rather it can be
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i learned it in a Non-violent communication class.
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You learned it and you are using it. That's excellent! I am very proud of you, so here is a special hug for you!
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well, i didn't say i used it all the time!
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