Okay, maddie, I know there's some lightheartedness to your question but I'm going to give a serious answer.
I don't care too much about guys going to strip bars. Some of my friends, before they were married, used to go once in a while. These are everyday, nice guys, by the way, not creepy guys. I've been twice -- once when a friend asked me if I wanted to go to Tijuana for his bachelor party and we ended up in the red light district (which, unbeknownst to me, he and his buddies had actually intended all along), and another time a couple years ago when I traveled to visit a friend and he suggested we go. I said what the hell and I went. I don't really get off on seeing naked hookers, but more on that in a moment.
In my opinion going to a strip bar isn't a big deal if you only do it once in a great while, but if you're doing it all the time that's a waste of money and kind of sad.
My biggest problem with the whole thing, and the reason I'm turned off to pornography and strip clubs in general, is that I look at the girls and to me most all of them look used and abused, and I feel more pity for them than anything. Plus, I know in my head where they come from.
I know the standard line for some of these "professional dancers" is that they're working their way through college, or, they say "Why
not do it when it's far easier money than getting a 'real' job?" But 99% of these girls have been sexually abused and for that reason it is virtually impossible for me to look at them with anything but pity. That's not to say I'm not human and I don't have hormones and I would never look at a porn star lustfully. But honestly, far more often than not, I'm saddened by seeing a woman who's living that kind of life, again, because I am all too aware of why they are in the place they are. Knowing that they were abused and that's why they work in porn makes them completely unattractive to me. I think they need help.
End of sermon.
P.S. Maddie, didja go and see the ape flick yet??
