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Yes - male vote 18 23.68%
Yes - female vote 27 35.53%
No - male vote 4 5.26%
No - female vote 5 6.58%
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:07 AM   #76
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Chizip(?!?) has it right - if it's something I'm not comfortable doing with my husband seeing or knowing about (and vice-versa), it's cheating
What if your husband and or you don't feel bad about it?

I say it can hardly be cheating if you can't even be sure of the sex of the other person.

If my boyfriend told me he was cybering with someone I would laugh my ass off, and tell him he had to get out more.
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:13 AM   #77
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lol well notiti you have a good out look on this.
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:13 AM   #78
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losing your virginity online is something i've never really thought about. i always thought it was just what bg said: masturbation with assistance. having cybersex is cheating if you feel that you can't discuss this with your real-life significant other. i'll go ahead and say this...my ex went as far as to cyber with some random girl while i was standing in front of the computer. this was when he had decided to leave me. he was being an insensitive prick at the time. he thought it was hilarious, the whole thing.
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Old 05-20-2003, 01:58 AM   #79
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Hmmmmmmm. See that's not funny.

The way to look at this is to say that your ex is so sad he has to get it online with people who don't know what he looks like.
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Old 05-20-2003, 02:55 AM   #80
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What if your husband and or you don't feel bad about it?


Yep, I'll echo a few sentiments here, IMHO the parameters of fidelity are best determined within the committed relationship. Yet I bet most couples make far too many assumptions about what is acceptable and what isn't.

Lots of happily married ppl are swingers yet others view a partner masturbating as a betrayal or failure of some sort. Who do you think is more secure in their relationship?

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If my boyfriend told me he was cybering with someone I would laugh my ass off, and tell him he had to get out more.
Would it be ok then if he went to a nudie bar and got a lap dance?
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Old 05-20-2003, 03:01 AM   #81
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Yes yes it would. I would also laugh at that. And hey - at least he'd be getting out then.

I'm not too threatened by strippers.
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Old 05-20-2003, 03:08 AM   #82
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LOL...which would also give you time alone with the computer...

Yeah, strip clubs don't bother me either and I still howl at my hubby's stories and pics (yes pics!) from his stag. I'm still under a gag order however to divulge details to his friends' partners.

Why do women hate strip clubs so much?
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Old 05-20-2003, 03:11 AM   #83
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Dunno. Honestly. I find it hilarious, it's like "yeah guys she sure does like you - and your wallet." If the boys want to pay for boobies let em pay.
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I chose shades of gray.

I think that it depends on the situation. If I were to find out that my boyfriend were having cyber sex with someone that he knew, or an ongoing cyber relationship then I would be very pissed and consider it cheating. However, if it were a totally random thing then I might not be upset. It's more like porn in that situation.

Also, keeping it a secret makes it a big difference. If they aren't being honest about it, then most likely they feel like they are doing something wrong, and that in itself makes it cheating. I would hope that any relationship that I am in would be open and honest enough that my so would feel comfortable talking to me about any thing of this sort.

However, all that being said, anything that is abused, be it random cyber sex, porn, strippers, etc. that gets in the way of the normal sex life within a relationship is a problem.
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Old 05-20-2003, 12:51 PM   #85
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I chose shades of gray as well.
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i said shades of grey, female vote.

cybersex is more like masturbation with assistance.
is phone sex cheating? is porn?
I agree.
I said no, female vote.
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I can't believe anyone thinks masturbation is cheating! That is, quite frankly, absurd, IMO...
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i don't hate strip clubs at all. one of my very good friends used to strip. it is really funny to hear the stories from strippers prospectives. i only hate the clubs if my boyfriend spends my money on a lap dance. actually i have friends who have taken their boyfriends or husbands to the strip clubs and bought them lap dances lol.
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Would it be ok then if he went to a nudie bar and got a lap dance?
Yes, my boyfriend can do that. I would want to hear all about it.
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I can't believe anyone thinks masturbation is cheating! That is, quite frankly, absurd, IMO...
What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?


Its not about the action, it is how the action impacts the relationship.
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