Is cybersex cheating?

[MissVelvetDress_75]

What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?

my ex did that a few times with me.
and when that happend, an arguement pretty much followed.

 

[joyfulgirl]

What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?


Its not about the action, it is how the action impacts the relationship.

I would say then that there were serious problems in the relationship that needed to be addressed. Masturbation is a completely natural thing and I expect it to be a part of my relationships. In fact, it has always enhanced mine. If it replaces lovemaking, that's another story.

 

[meegannie]

MY VIRGIN EYES!

 

[The Absent One]

I voted YES. male vote. Its not like pornography cos its directly with another person. And its not just fantasy and self masturbation because the other person is responding.

 

[The Absent One]

But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!

 

[meegannie]

But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!

 

[AliEnvy]

Hmmm

But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!

But mutual masturbation when you can't see or hear the other person is?

What if you don't actually masturbate when cybering...I mean do people really sit there typing with one hand? In that case it's kinda foreplay, is that worse than porn?

 

[joyfulgirl]

I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.

Magazines, videos, phone sex, cybersex, masturbation, strip clubs...have at it, within reason (to be defined by the couple). If my boyfriend is having cybersex repeatedly with the same person, or if he is spending too much time with all these other things, then we have to talk because it points to problems in the relationship. The occasional thrill, though, can actually keep the home fires warm, in my experience.

 

[AliEnvy]

I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.

So if your boyfriend tells you your best friend gives the best hand jobs on earth you'll say, well at least it wasn't oral or penetration, glad you enjoyed it?

 

[MrBrau1]

But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!

Yes it is! Your letting another person, beside your partner, play w/ your joy stick.

 

[joyfulgirl]

So if your boyfriend tells you your best friend gives the best hand jobs on earth you'll say, well at least it wasn't oral or penetration, glad you enjoyed it?

You got me before I had a chance to edit! No, anything involving another person in the flesh--sexual touching, hand jobs, mutual masturbation, kissing, etc...the whole realm of physical intimacy, in person, with another person would be cheating in my book.

 

[nbcrusader]

This gets to the core of what we call "cheating". Is it any one of a series of physical acts, or is it an activity where your partner is investing emotional energy in someone else?

 

[Klaus]

nbcrusader:

exactly. Imho cheating begins in the head and the physical thing isn't the most important part.

Klaus

 

[joyfulgirl]

Good question...but I thought we were just talking about sex.

Investing emotional energy in someone else and doing everything but could also be cheating. In that case, though, you could be falling in love with someone else.

 

[ABEL]

is it getting hot in here or is it just me?

 

[joyfulgirl]

my bad







am I going to be scolded for using certain words?

 

[AliEnvy]

This gets to the core of what we call "cheating". Is it any one of a series of physical acts, or is it an activity where your partner is investing emotional energy in someone else?

Physical acts vs emotional energy keeps coming up. What about sexual or erotic energy...is that only physical?

 

[therulz]

i felt "cheated" when i met some lady who i was chatting up on the net and she didnt appear as she advertised herself as.
now thats cheating:angry
DB9

No DB..that is lying.

Now, the eternal question.

Does anyone that cybers really think the other person is representing themselves correctly or making it all up?

I say it is a gray area because it represents a willingmess to be sexual without your partner participating. I also don't think it is porn in the sense of a magazine because playboy to my recollection is not interactive unless you get too close to the staples.

 

[diamond]

-lying
-cheating
-short changed..
all
the same to me.

when i speak, take it to the bank.

thank u-

db3

 

[therulz]

...

her loss I would say DB

 

[ILuvLarryMullen]

playboy to my recollection is not interactive unless you get too close to the staples.

 

[AliEnvy]

There's an episode of Jackass involving staples...

 

[cell]

ohh the one where that guy staples his ass together...

 

[Chizip]

such an intelligent show

 

[cass]

I have been trying to talk my Significant OnlyOther into a roll in the computer chair for ages. Is that cheating?
I voted female shades of gray with just a suggestion of pink.

"...he whispers sweet nothings in my ear
and tells me Baby don't worry I am here..."


you guys these topics
life the universe and everything

 

[cass]

I'm starting to suspect you unattached folks don't know about the operation......hmmmm.
Something to look forward to.

 

[Red Ships of Scalla-Festa]

you got a labotomy, didnt you.

 

[Rono]

I have strange feelings about my laptop now,..

 

[mmmBono]

shades of gray for me...