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The Flower
My father passed away about a month ago. He lived in another state and we rarely saw each other. We became very close in the months before he died and he was able to go with a clear conscience. He had a drug problem for the first 30 years of my life but he was clean for the past 5 years. We had very little contact during his drug years but I always knew he loved me and he always knew I loved him. Here is my problem.
My dad's younger brother is a big time alcoholic. He's obnoxious and rude and no one wants him around. Because of time constraints, I had to leave right after the funeral and couldn't wait to take my dad's ashes home with me. They were given to my uncle (the drunk) who lives near me. We have been planning to take the ashes to the beach and release them at a spot my dad picked before he died. Scheduling has been a problem because of my job but I told my uncle that this weekened would be fine. Apparently he didn't think I was acting fast enough.
I just checked my answering machine and my uncle has left the me the following message:
I now have no desire to get anywhere near this man, even to go to the beach to spread my dad's ashes. I'm really afraid that it will turn ugly and that's not what I want for my last moment with my dad.
Am I wrong to not go? There was an open casket funeral so I've already said my goodbyes. I just can't handle this man.
My dad's younger brother is a big time alcoholic. He's obnoxious and rude and no one wants him around. Because of time constraints, I had to leave right after the funeral and couldn't wait to take my dad's ashes home with me. They were given to my uncle (the drunk) who lives near me. We have been planning to take the ashes to the beach and release them at a spot my dad picked before he died. Scheduling has been a problem because of my job but I told my uncle that this weekened would be fine. Apparently he didn't think I was acting fast enough.
I just checked my answering machine and my uncle has left the me the following message:
Hey punk...your a punk, just a punk. You never did shit for your dad, my brother. We're getting short on time in this thing and we gotta act quick. Why don't you just let us do this thing, yeah...get some control you punk. Why don't you just shut the fuck up.
I now have no desire to get anywhere near this man, even to go to the beach to spread my dad's ashes. I'm really afraid that it will turn ugly and that's not what I want for my last moment with my dad.
Am I wrong to not go? There was an open casket funeral so I've already said my goodbyes. I just can't handle this man.