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Old 01-27-2003, 02:03 PM   #1
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Hey, marrieds and long-term relationships....how do YOU keep it interesting?

I would be curious to learn more about the people on here who have been in long-term relationships. Do you still have that "in love" feeling, or is it just calm contentment? Do you ever wish you were single again?

How do you combat relationship boredom? I bet people on here have some interesting and unusual ideas.

For me, candlelight dinners and "cliche romance" things don't work at all, because I am keenly aware that this is supposed to be romantic, so it wrecks it.

They also say you should make a date with your spouse....but when you don't have children, that's not anything very special because you can make a date with your spouse any time you want.

We have had threads about what is love, and have you ever been in love...this thread is about if and how you've stayed in love.
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With my ex it was like a calm contentment.. nothing special.. no sparks.. too much fighting. I wished I was single many times.

With daafish on the other hand ... I want to everytime I see him.
Even though its only been 9 months I have a feeling it will be this way always.
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Hard to keep things interesting when we've got 650 miles between us...actually, I feel bad because I've been in a down mood lately, so our phone calls have been quite boring and short, though we still talk everyday. John is so understanding though...he never makes me feel bad about it. I'd go crazy if I didn't talk to him everyday, even though sometimes the only thing I have to say is, "I love you."

One time, I had flowers sent to him at work for no reason...no special occasion at all. He was really surprised...as were all of his female co-workers who were all certain that the flowers were meant for one of them!
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U don't really want Me to answer this..I would take ALL day, ty for smilies

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i don't know how i do it, really. i guess the key for my husband and i is spontaneity.
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I think my hubby and I run somewhere in the middle of calm contentment and burning love

We don't do anything special to keep the boredom away, we just kind of ride it out. I think it hits me more than my husband and when he notices that I'm getting restless or down, he'll plan a surprise getaway or take me on a long drive so we can just talk and spend uninterupted time together.

A few times, I've wished I was single but that has a lot to do with the fact that I've really never been alone. The longest I've ever not been in a relationship is probably 2 or 3 months when I was 15 or 16. He understands this and is surprisingly patient with me.

But, I still have that "in love" feeling for him and can't imagine my life without him. He knows me better than anyone ever has or ever will and I can talk to him about anything. We talk to each other constantly when he's out working and even after 14 years, I still run to the door to kiss him when he comes home at night.

Its not always perfect and he can drive me nuts but I love him so, so very much
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A few times, I've wished I was single but that has a lot to do with the fact that I've really never been alone. The longest I've ever not been in a relationship is probably 2 or 3 months when I was 15 or 16.
That is the total opposite of me. The longest I've ever been IN a relationship is 2-3 (well, more like 4) months.
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are you guys

BAW

@ me?

BTW--what does BAW mean? Is that laughing?
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BAW = Bono's American Wife
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[B We talk to each other constantly when he's out working and even after 14 years, I still run to the door to kiss him when he comes home at night.

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I agree with others:



especially that part.
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My bf and I have been together 4 years, and living together for 4 years. We work at home together. We are literally around each other every second of every day, save for bathroom breaks and showers.

We have always been about calm contentment. He and I have no current plans for marriage and children, although we do own a house and a business together.

How do we keep it fresh when we are always around each other? Communication and Laughter. Because at the end of the day, that is often what you have. And Honesty. If we weren't honest with each other about everything, we'd be nowhere.

We also genuinely like each other as people. We are terrifically co-dependent on each other. And while some see that as bad, we are stuck together like glue. Bonded. Cemented. Best Friends. Life Companions. He and I.

It's great. And knowing all of that, makes us
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