Dreadsox said:
I would say we have periods of contentment and periods of burning passion. I do not wish to ever be single again.
To combat relationship boredom I shave my back.........HEHE
This is an idea for my husband, he's a hairy guy
We're the same as a lot of you have said - we have periods of contentment and burning passion, as well as rocky periods, but the bad parts don't last for long. Just as circumstances change and events happen we roll with it and make it through.
It's true that relationships require a lot of hard work. It's not at all like the fairy tales where you get married and "live happily ever after." At least it's not for us. We have to work at it constantly to keep the romantic feelings going. That was one of my problems was I had an unrealistic expectation of marriage. In actuality it's hard work!!
One of the things I also had to learn is the importance of other support systems like family and friends. For example my husband hates U2!!!
For years I was angry at him for not sharing my musical interest but finally I was able to see that we didn't have to like everything 100% of the time. It's healthy to have relationships with other people and interests outside the relationship as well. I don't have to go to car shows with him, and he doesn't have to go shopping with me
For us, it helps to get out for "dates" once in awhile, or have a dance in the livingroom, or just go out to eat, to kind of bring back the "good old days" when we were dating. Before we had all the extra stress and responsiblities and could focus on each other!
We've been married 7 years, and together 3 years before that.