spinninghead77
Refugee
Why is it that people always think that there way of life is better then others. I am 24 years old, and my boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together within the next 3-4 months. We have been together for 5 years. We have talked about marriage and kids, and plan to do both one day. We will get married when we can afford it. Neither of us come from families that can afford to pay for an entire wedding, nor would I want them to.
I am tired of people telling me that I should get married. It is mostly girls my age who are from culture's that have expectations that either a) the parents pay for the whole thing, b) of that the guests give you enough money to foot the bill.
The reason that it bugs me is because the people that I hear this from don't understand how things work in the real world. A friend of mine got married last summer, and her parents paid for the whole thing. They both lived at home up until the wedding, and didn't contribute at all financially. There parents even bought them cars. They bought a house with a good down payment (which my bfriend and I could do too, if we didn't have car payments, and other financial obligations) and their parents furnished it for them as wedding/house warming gifts. She keeps telling me that getting married is easy, because everything fits together in the end.
But I am happy with my life. I like knowing that I earned everything that I own, and that when I get married, and buy a house, that I will have earned that too. I make a pretty good income, and I live at home, so I help my parents with the bills around the house. I don't pay too much, but I am contributing. I feel that as an adult, I should be.
What do you guys think???
I am tired of people telling me that I should get married. It is mostly girls my age who are from culture's that have expectations that either a) the parents pay for the whole thing, b) of that the guests give you enough money to foot the bill.
The reason that it bugs me is because the people that I hear this from don't understand how things work in the real world. A friend of mine got married last summer, and her parents paid for the whole thing. They both lived at home up until the wedding, and didn't contribute at all financially. There parents even bought them cars. They bought a house with a good down payment (which my bfriend and I could do too, if we didn't have car payments, and other financial obligations) and their parents furnished it for them as wedding/house warming gifts. She keeps telling me that getting married is easy, because everything fits together in the end.
But I am happy with my life. I like knowing that I earned everything that I own, and that when I get married, and buy a house, that I will have earned that too. I make a pretty good income, and I live at home, so I help my parents with the bills around the house. I don't pay too much, but I am contributing. I feel that as an adult, I should be.
What do you guys think???
