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Old 11-18-2002, 09:19 PM   #1
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The other night at a family dinner, my nieces were talking about going off for a week long trip to a science/biology type camp that most students who live in this area go to during the winter. They are very excited.

Hearing them talk about it put butterflies in my stomach as I remembered going to that camp as a child and being mercilessly teased...I would either be ostracized entirely, or picked on (and they even stole my stuffed toy armadillo and tossed it around the room! aaah!). Summer camp was equally appalling with cliques, and I begged my parents never to send me again.

The worst years for me were grades 4, 5 and 6. I was a bespectacled little girl who wore dresses and pigtails and had moved to the big city from the suburbs and left all my friends behind. I went to a particularly snobby school (full of agressive children of lawyers and stockbrokers etc.) and it was like being thrown into a sea of sharks. I did not have the money to buy the in clothes, and was way to shy to charm my way into the cliques.

Again there was that horrible isolation, or worse, there were incidents where they would try to force feed me food they found on the ground, ...or write things about me on the bathroom walls, or leave cruel notes in my pencil box (remember those?)....and I was much too shy and timid to do anything about it. I was so upset and afraid, I would get on the bus and just ride around the city, or pretend to be sick. When I finally moved on to grade 7 things got much better...I went from being picked on to being invisible, which was a huge improvement, believe me! My school years have left me with a permanent inferiority complex. (I think this is one of the other reasons I value my U2 friends so much.....)

When I read about bullying nowadays though, what I went through was a piece of cake. Did or do any of you go through this? Or were you a bullyer? Or mercifully left alone?
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Old 11-18-2002, 09:26 PM   #2
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I was left alone.. but my school years aren't over yet
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Old 11-18-2002, 09:47 PM   #3
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Believe it or not I was picked on a lot when I was younger. ( Maybe that's why I'm such a bitch now )

There was always some boy, or a group of girls in practically every grade that was rude to me. I especially remember junior high sucking really bad. They would surround me and just start talking shit to me about what I was wearing, or my hair, anything. I didnt have the hip clothes like them and I wasnt pretty. My parents were cheap and rarely bought me clothes.. and when they did they were from cheap stores. In seventh grade there was a couple boys in one of my classes that would constantly tease me about my big lips. Coming up with all sorts of fucked up names .. nothing sexual, just rude.

I would like to see all these people now and see what they think of me. Especially the boys because you know, real men love full lips.
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Old 11-18-2002, 10:07 PM   #4
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I was called the n-word once at the beach by a foul-mouthed kid.
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Old 11-18-2002, 10:09 PM   #5
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i was teased...not bad. the worst was 6th and 7th grade. 6th grade there was just one girl who was completely rude to me...mocked me, pushed me around...once she kept bugging me and telling me i was ugly, etc, til i cried (haven't since, thankfully)...it got much better though...and, now i'm not in my "awkward stage" and i'm 6'1...i'd like to see her now!
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I was teased A LOT and thats why i dont make friends that well now!! For 6th - 8th I had a bullying and she even went has far has hitting me in the face( causing my mouth to bleed bc i had braces)and so ever since then I keep to myself and I have a really hard time trusting pple and making friends!!

One time when i was in 4th grade i invited "friends" over from a slumber and everything was fun and then the next day i was told that they didnt like me and they just came over bc they wanted to see where i lived and weather it was a dump and also bc they all had crushes on my brother.

In High school and grade school I was made fun of alotand pple would spread nasty rumours around about me and one of the names that they would call me is Horse bc apparently i looked like one whenever i pulled my hair back!!
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Old 11-18-2002, 10:34 PM   #7
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I was called the n-word once at the beach by a foul-mouthed kid.
I've seen you post this before.

It sure made an impression.
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Old 11-18-2002, 10:38 PM   #8
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The kid apparently thought it was cool or funny or something as he had a group of friends with him and I was walking by alone; he was about hte same age as me. He thought I would just keep walking, I guess, but when I confronted him (calmly) he started acting real friendly. My older brothers were situated just down the beach also.

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I guess it was the worse (most degrading) name he could call you.
I think boys today now use "fag".


To the poll, I could vote in all three selections.
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yeah, i was teased from when i was very young to 8th grade. i dont think there was a time that i dont remember not being picked on back then. i was too shy and too scared to stick up for myself.

it was always about my speech, or my hearing aids, the glasses i had to wear. there were some teachers that even picked on me too. they were the worst, because then it encouraged other kids to pick on me too. it was just really awful to the point where i wanted to kill myself. my mother had to keep a close eye on me to make sure i didnt do anything harmful to myself back then. she had an idea of what was going on thru the years, and even threatened the teachers and mothers of the kids that picked on me.

there was one time that i had the nerve to stand up for myself in 8th grade. there was this one chick who was main bully(she's picked on me since i was in first grade), and then one day she wanted to really hurt me for just being alive. i found out 2 hours before by some nice girl who felt bad for me back then. i emptied my purse out and stuck a bunch of glass bottles in my purse to swing at her head in case she did try to beat me up. she followed me halfway home and then she tried to make her move. i started swinging wildly at her and i think i got her a couple of times and then she gave up and took off. i ran all the way home and told my mom what happened. well what do you know, i get called into the office the next day and my mom shows up. i had to fight to not get suspended for self defense, and it worked. i got to stay in school, and then i found out later that the bitch was now afraid of me. it felt good for a few weeks.

high school was alot better, i came out of my shell, joined the drama club, ended up being one of the best directors and actors in school. that was the best time of my life.

its weird, but i want to move back to where i grew up. i hope it can bring some closure of what i went thru back then.
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Except for a few isolated incidents, I was basically left along. But, then, I've always tried hard to isolate myself from situtations, so that might be why.
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Except for a few isolated incidents, I was basically left alone.
There are a couple times in junior high when I can remember the popular people being mean to me or my friends, but mostly I was left alone.
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Normal same here sis

It was a mixed bag. In elementary I was teased a lot, mostly for being tall and a little bit overweight. I also was the only kid on my block, so while everyone knew each other from their neighborhoods, I didn't know anyone so therefore was forced to entertain myself a lot afterschool. In middle school I was completely alone, save for one girl who I ate lunch with. In high school I broke out of my shy shell, and had lots of good friends and aquaintances.


I guess that explains a lot of my solidary personality, and how I'm not really bugged being alone for long periods of time. But now I have good friends and am so glad to have all that crappy school stuff behind me.
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Old 11-19-2002, 12:36 AM   #14
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Ahh, Mrs. Edge....now I see. Isn't it funny how childhood traumas leave lasting scars? I'll take sticks & stones any day...it's the names that DO hurt. Tho I was a total tomboy in gradeschool and definitely did bully some kids (one boy in particular, ouch) I was actually very shy, kind of a wallflower all thru my growing up years. But I SOOO wanted to be cool, to fit in, to be one of the "in" crowd, but I was just not smart enough, hip enough, *whatever* enough to be one of them. I remember being picked on in school particularly by a couple of girls (my name happens to rhyme with a lot of unbecoming words ) who I really held a major grudge against until fairly recently, when I discovered that one of them is now gay; and at my last H.S. reunion, the other girl, who I seriously hated for years (but now didn't recognize), came up to me to say hi, and told me she was a stay at home mom with a disabled child. Which then made me feel *this tall* that I harbored a grudge toward her for so many years. But their teasing and taunting really did haunt me for years.

I also went thru a "dammit, I'll show em!" season in H.S. because I *lucked out and* became a cheerleader to try to become popular, only to ironically discover that I couldn't stand any of the other girls on the squad, for that very reason! They were all stuck up and snotty....but they were popular. Go figure. Talk about an interesting learning experience.
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Kids are cruel. I look back at some of the kids I used to know and wonder what they are like now, whether it grew into anything more serious or if they were just being typical schnitzels and they outgrew it. In primary school (age 5-11, dont know what the American equivalent is) the worst was probably taunts about my sister. "Why is she black?" "Is she burnt?" "Why is she different?" I was an exceptionally small kid, I looked about 3 years younger than everyone else and have, thanks to my dad, the whitest skin possible. I almost glow in the dark I am so pale. So my sister and I always looked like poster kids for a 'United Colours of Benetton' ad. So I guess they were curious, and being nasty as kids tend to be, they thought it was a good target. We grew up in a small town and there wasn't a great deal of ethnic diversity in those days. One thing I am terribly grateful for was that I never saw my sister cop too much of it. Nothing noble about it, I just think its better for me to be called a freak than for her to experience something that can be construed as racism.

High School was a lot better in that regard, obviously being around 1600 or so students meant we blended in a lot better, there were more different backgrounds so no one took any notice. I guess personally I was no different to a lot of people, there were always the 'groups' and they had something nasty to say about all the other 'groups'. I dont think that was particularly abnormal though. Nasty teenage girls will be nasty teenage girls.
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