Ana Ana Ana....
Hearing this story makes me so sad. No woman deserves to be treated like an object. No woman should be treated like an object. And the man that does, should be dropped immediately. It sounds like maybe this has happened before. And that is not a good thing. As much as we like to tell ourselves, "Oh, he'lll change. I just need to be understanding," chances are he's not going to change. So I would agree with Spinny that you should drop him, though it's always nice to have someone to call your boyfriend, it's always nice to feel loved and wanted, and it's especially hard to give that up. Being a single woman is much better than being in an abusive relationship. And yes, this would count as an abusive relationship: He is abusing you by refusing to recognize your needs and desires. And he is abusing you by treating you like an object. And it sounds like you have been doubting yourself a lot in the relationship, and that's never a good thing.
So as painful as it sometimes is to be single, it's always better than trying to have a meaningful relationship with someone who obviously doesn't reciprocate that feeling.
I hope that whatever you decide makes YOU happy! Don't ever let a man diminish you. And if he does, drop him like a hot potato
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When you've seen beyond yourself
then you may find peace of mind is waiting there
And the time will come when you see we're all one
And life flows on within you and without you.
Create Light, Create Unity, Create Joy, CREATE PEACE!