This isn't going to be exclusively poetry - I'd actually like to start a discussion of sorts, and as it seems so many of the posters in Dream Out Loud are far more articulate than I, so I think this would be a good place to start. And besides, this is somewhat therapeutic for me, since it's nice to actually get out some of my feelings that I usually keep to myself and let others share their wisdom/insight on the issue. I can't really think of what to designate this first part - it's not exactly poetry...call it an assemblage of related thoughts =):
I sometimes shudder to think of how she would react if she truly knew what I feel and how strongly I feel it.
How I can be near a window and catch her walking in the distance, and become totally lost in watching her walk, lost in the absurd beauty of her mere steps.
How my heart skips a beat when she sees me through the window and stops to offer me what is surely one of the most gorgeous smiles ever made.
How, even when I'm very busy, I always welcome a phone call from her and hope for a phone call from her.
How she takes my compliments as me just being a nice sweet friend, when in fact I'm being completely honest.
How when she looks at me with those gorgeous eyes of a stormy sea, I feel as if I've no place to hide and no reason to.
How I feel completely at peace when she rests on my shoulder while we watch a movie.
How I respect and admire her so much when she talks about her beliefs, hopes, and dreams.
How happy it makes me just to know that she laughs at the same things I do (and more importantly laughs at my jokes
).
How much I look forward to having lunch with her or simply meeting her on the way to a class.
How honored I feel when she says that my valentines present to her was the sweetest thing anybody has ever done for her
How much regret I feel upon hearing that, knowing that I stalled after that golden opportunity that now only holds friendship.
How truly thankful I am for that friendship.
How it pains me when I realize that as our friendship grows and strengthens, so do my feelings for her.
How incredibly hard it was for me to bare my feelings to her, knowing that she did not want anything but friendship.
How thankful I was that she took my feelings as gracefully as possible and was honest with me, only reassuring me of what a truly beautiful person (in all senses) she is, and how lucky I am to have her as any part of my life, let alone a close friend.
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Ok, now on to the discussion part. If you can't tell, I've developed a very strong friendship with someone who was at first a romantic interest, but thanks to my lack of self-confidence and impulsiveness in relationship matters, that never came through. However, getting to know her even better through our friendship, all the reasons I liked her in the first place have only been added to and strengthened.
Well, it got so bad that I literally had to take a break (we do something together nearly every day) and not talk to her while I decided how to unload these feelings that I just couldn't ignore anymore. Long story short, I ended up telling her basically everything I could manage to get out in the nervous state I was in when I called, and as I'd already basically known, she only wanted friendship.
My question is this: why is there such a fear of getting involved romantically with a friend? They care for you, they know you pretty well - know what you like, know what you dislike, etc - you know they're not in it for some cheap ulterior motive. I know there's the risk of hurting them, but that's a risk I feel is worth taking.
Here are a few of my theories:
1)There's no mysterious aspect of excitement to it. You already know the person so part of that initial 'fleshing out' of the other person is gone. However, I think that getting involved because of the mystery or excitement of someone new shouldn't be a major concern, and it's gonna wear off soon, anyway.
2)The whole allure of a 'bad boy/girl' image is lost. I know not everyone is attracted to this, but there seems to be, at least in my experience a certain allure in women for guys who are controlling (to a certain extent) or are 'tough.' With friends, there aren't (or shouldn't be) any false pretenses or images - you're yourself around them.
Anyway, I've rambled on long enough. What do you think?
I'm kinda getting the same feeling Bubba got in his post...that I'm gonna cringe reading this later and wish I'd deleted it...
I sometimes shudder to think of how she would react if she truly knew what I feel and how strongly I feel it.
How I can be near a window and catch her walking in the distance, and become totally lost in watching her walk, lost in the absurd beauty of her mere steps.
How my heart skips a beat when she sees me through the window and stops to offer me what is surely one of the most gorgeous smiles ever made.
How, even when I'm very busy, I always welcome a phone call from her and hope for a phone call from her.
How she takes my compliments as me just being a nice sweet friend, when in fact I'm being completely honest.
How when she looks at me with those gorgeous eyes of a stormy sea, I feel as if I've no place to hide and no reason to.
How I feel completely at peace when she rests on my shoulder while we watch a movie.
How I respect and admire her so much when she talks about her beliefs, hopes, and dreams.
How happy it makes me just to know that she laughs at the same things I do (and more importantly laughs at my jokes
How much I look forward to having lunch with her or simply meeting her on the way to a class.
How honored I feel when she says that my valentines present to her was the sweetest thing anybody has ever done for her
How much regret I feel upon hearing that, knowing that I stalled after that golden opportunity that now only holds friendship.
How truly thankful I am for that friendship.
How it pains me when I realize that as our friendship grows and strengthens, so do my feelings for her.
How incredibly hard it was for me to bare my feelings to her, knowing that she did not want anything but friendship.
How thankful I was that she took my feelings as gracefully as possible and was honest with me, only reassuring me of what a truly beautiful person (in all senses) she is, and how lucky I am to have her as any part of my life, let alone a close friend.
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Ok, now on to the discussion part. If you can't tell, I've developed a very strong friendship with someone who was at first a romantic interest, but thanks to my lack of self-confidence and impulsiveness in relationship matters, that never came through. However, getting to know her even better through our friendship, all the reasons I liked her in the first place have only been added to and strengthened.
Well, it got so bad that I literally had to take a break (we do something together nearly every day) and not talk to her while I decided how to unload these feelings that I just couldn't ignore anymore. Long story short, I ended up telling her basically everything I could manage to get out in the nervous state I was in when I called, and as I'd already basically known, she only wanted friendship.
My question is this: why is there such a fear of getting involved romantically with a friend? They care for you, they know you pretty well - know what you like, know what you dislike, etc - you know they're not in it for some cheap ulterior motive. I know there's the risk of hurting them, but that's a risk I feel is worth taking.
Here are a few of my theories:
1)There's no mysterious aspect of excitement to it. You already know the person so part of that initial 'fleshing out' of the other person is gone. However, I think that getting involved because of the mystery or excitement of someone new shouldn't be a major concern, and it's gonna wear off soon, anyway.
2)The whole allure of a 'bad boy/girl' image is lost. I know not everyone is attracted to this, but there seems to be, at least in my experience a certain allure in women for guys who are controlling (to a certain extent) or are 'tough.' With friends, there aren't (or shouldn't be) any false pretenses or images - you're yourself around them.
Anyway, I've rambled on long enough. What do you think?
I'm kinda getting the same feeling Bubba got in his post...that I'm gonna cringe reading this later and wish I'd deleted it...