AvsGirl41
New Yorker
I wrote this in my journal, but I'd actually like a wide range of opinions from men and women if I could get them...
My sister and I have this guy friend. Over this past summer, we have begun to suspect that maybe he likes my sister. We tend to do things as a group, so I think it's difficult for him to "pick" or feel that he can pick one without hurting the feelings of the other, which is too bad, as neither of us would care.
We all met at a club one night and Sarah insisted later he was there simply to check her out and that he was really acting jealous. Right after that, he signed on to MySpace and Sarah said again, she thought that he was doing it to "spy" on her. He's been leaving her what she claimed were "mushy" comments, but I thought she was being overly harsh. This weekend she got a message from him telling her that he had "an incredible dream" about her and "remind me to tell you all about it." Sarah thought it was really perverted he would tell her that. He also mentioned that he was eager to go back to the club, just let him know when we were going. We decided to go on Sunday, but we didn't call him as we wanted to keep the group small and female.
So I was hanging out, people watching, suddenly I see him! I run up and greet him, and express my surprise. He's surprised to see me, too. "I knew Sarah would be here, but not you." Now, this place is pitch black and it's quite easy to observe without being seen, so I have no idea how long he may have been there. He ended up hanging out with me, as Sarah was off dancing with other guys, and they barely spoke all evening. He ended up hanging around with me all night--and after, tried to get me to let him drive *me* home alone, despite that I had a ride with my original group.
Sarah and I are really bothered by this. Obviously, it's a public club and we can't say that he has no right to be there, but it seems odd you would just show up without telling, especially since he knows she goes every week.
Does anyone think this is verging on obsession, or stalking? He's a very nice guy, normally open and honest and this seems really odd behavior. It's raising the red flags with me, and I know to listen to that instinct, but I'm curious if anyone else here sees a problem.
My sister and I have this guy friend. Over this past summer, we have begun to suspect that maybe he likes my sister. We tend to do things as a group, so I think it's difficult for him to "pick" or feel that he can pick one without hurting the feelings of the other, which is too bad, as neither of us would care.
We all met at a club one night and Sarah insisted later he was there simply to check her out and that he was really acting jealous. Right after that, he signed on to MySpace and Sarah said again, she thought that he was doing it to "spy" on her. He's been leaving her what she claimed were "mushy" comments, but I thought she was being overly harsh. This weekend she got a message from him telling her that he had "an incredible dream" about her and "remind me to tell you all about it." Sarah thought it was really perverted he would tell her that. He also mentioned that he was eager to go back to the club, just let him know when we were going. We decided to go on Sunday, but we didn't call him as we wanted to keep the group small and female.
So I was hanging out, people watching, suddenly I see him! I run up and greet him, and express my surprise. He's surprised to see me, too. "I knew Sarah would be here, but not you." Now, this place is pitch black and it's quite easy to observe without being seen, so I have no idea how long he may have been there. He ended up hanging out with me, as Sarah was off dancing with other guys, and they barely spoke all evening. He ended up hanging around with me all night--and after, tried to get me to let him drive *me* home alone, despite that I had a ride with my original group.
Sarah and I are really bothered by this. Obviously, it's a public club and we can't say that he has no right to be there, but it seems odd you would just show up without telling, especially since he knows she goes every week.
Does anyone think this is verging on obsession, or stalking? He's a very nice guy, normally open and honest and this seems really odd behavior. It's raising the red flags with me, and I know to listen to that instinct, but I'm curious if anyone else here sees a problem.