AtomicBono
ONE love, blood, life
if you can't stop thinking about someone for like a year and a half? I mean literally, can't stop.
am I just totally insane or what?
am I just totally insane or what?
starsgoblue said:Often times in situations like this I've found because of the "what-if" element I have...for lack of a better word...obssesesed. I am not certain if that is that case with you but it can definetly be playing a part. I am not doubting your feelings for him but if you mean it when you say you just wish for his happiness it may be the most loving thing you can do by letting him be in his relationship that he has now. From what I've seen of you on here you're a great gal, vivacious, spirited, and clearly have excellent musical tastes wink: )---you deserve to have someone in your life that can see what we all do and will beat your door down to have the oppurtunity to love you.
AtomicBono said:
see, if they were together happily maybe it wouldn't drive me so crazy. I guess a terrible part of me thinks I'd be better for him, because we have more in common, and they're always fighting and she throws chairs at him and stuff. and it just seems to stress him out. and whenever i ask him if it's worth it in the end the answer is "I don't know"
AtomicBono said:Sorry I'm a bit late to reply, my internetz were broken.
Yeah, the thing about that. Um. Well, like a year and a half ago or so I told him I liked him, cuz at that point I'd had a crush on him for a while. I didn't tell him with the intention of getting in a relationship; I just wanted to get it off my chest. But we ended up talking about it a lot at first and he said something like "It's not like I wouldn't date you, I totally would, I think you're fantastic, but [his girlfriend] and I are so close I don't even know." aaand he was always complimenting me and outright saying "I'd totally bang you" and stuff like that (he's very forward with those sort of things, that's just the way he talks) He also felt really bad because I was all emo over it. But eventually I stopped bringing it up because I figured I wasn't going to get over it if I talked to him about it all the time.
Well, I haven't really mentioned it to him for over a year now, but if anything the feelings have just intensified. It's really driving me mad. I get insanely depressed if I don't talk to him for like a day. He's still with the same girlfriend, but they don't see each other a lot (once a week at most) and he told my other friend (his best friend and also one of my best friends) that he feels like they're drifting apart and that he straight up told her (his g/f) if he meets someone else and the feeling is mutual, he'd leave her. Now I assume if he liked me that way he'd say something, even if he thinks I'm over it (which I suppose would be a logical thing to think since I don't talk about it anymore). So I guess it doesn't really matter anyway. But it's still driving me crazy.
so...uh...anyone have any advice?
thanks for the comments and support, btw. I appreciate it a lot.
Bono's shades said:I don't think you should change your college plans because of a guy even if you are in a romantic relationship with him, let alone in a platonic-but-I-wish-it-were-romantic relationship. If this guy really wanted to be with you, he would be with you, not this other girl. I mean, it's not like he has absolutely no idea you have feelings for him.
I think the best thing you can do is stop eating your heart out, go off to college and live your life. Write and e-mail this guy while you are away, by all means. If the friendship is really secure, it will survive the two of you not being in the same state.
icelle said:^what he said.
Bono's shades said:
Maybe you should try talking to him about how things are going with this girl. If she's still throwing chairs and stuff, this isn't a healthy relationship for him in any case, and as a friend you wouldn't be out of line pointing that out to him. But don't tell him about your feelings until he has made a clean break from her. And if he doesn't - well, you might be better off forgetting about him as a romantic prospect. And if you are going away to college in a year, that will help you get over him.