katiebu21
Refugee
Should a friendship be tit for tat? When your friends with someone do you need to keep track of everything you do for that person and everything they do for you?
Before today I would have said no because I'm always there for my friends no matter what. If it's money they need and I can spare it, it's theirs...if it's my time they need, they've always got it.
I was always way too generous with my money. I think it's part of the reason I don't have any now. I'd loan money to a friend in a heartbeat or I would pay if we were going somewhere and they didn't have money.
I've never pointed a finger at anyone or ever made lists of things I did for them. That's why I didn't appreciate it when today a friend of mine,
a) accused me of not paying back money borrowed
b) listed all the things she's done for me
I've been out of work for 6 months and yes I've been down and out, but I thought friendship was about being there in good times and bad. It pisses me off because it's like she just expects people to do for her, but never wants to acknowledge that they are in fact going out of their way to help her out. God forbid she goes out of her way for anybody and when she actually does...a scene similiar to today plays out.
In the end, she realized she was wrong today but not before making me feel like a piece of shit. I did pay her the money back but she didn't remember until I filled her in...I guess she's not all that good at keeping track.
Before today I would have said no because I'm always there for my friends no matter what. If it's money they need and I can spare it, it's theirs...if it's my time they need, they've always got it.
I was always way too generous with my money. I think it's part of the reason I don't have any now. I'd loan money to a friend in a heartbeat or I would pay if we were going somewhere and they didn't have money.
I've never pointed a finger at anyone or ever made lists of things I did for them. That's why I didn't appreciate it when today a friend of mine,
a) accused me of not paying back money borrowed
b) listed all the things she's done for me
I've been out of work for 6 months and yes I've been down and out, but I thought friendship was about being there in good times and bad. It pisses me off because it's like she just expects people to do for her, but never wants to acknowledge that they are in fact going out of their way to help her out. God forbid she goes out of her way for anybody and when she actually does...a scene similiar to today plays out.
In the end, she realized she was wrong today but not before making me feel like a piece of shit. I did pay her the money back but she didn't remember until I filled her in...I guess she's not all that good at keeping track.