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Old 05-29-2006, 08:54 AM   #16
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says the user who may be a 45 year old man called Morris

Or perhaps with all the evidence to the contrary, not.
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Old 05-29-2006, 08:58 AM   #17
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I would agree that for your first dating type relationship that he is too old for you. It is easy to get caught up in someone who shares interests with you and with whom you feel comfortable, but obviously you don't even know him yet. Best to be just friends and forget about anything else. I know how hard that is though when you feel a certain attraction and want the companionship of a man, but you have to think of yourself and what is best for you in the long run.
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Old 05-29-2006, 11:15 AM   #18
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I would agree that for your first dating type relationship that he is too old for you. It is easy to get caught up in someone who shares interests with you and with whom you feel comfortable, but obviously you don't even know him yet. Best to be just friends and forget about anything else. I know how hard that is though when you feel a certain attraction and want the companionship of a man, but you have to think of yourself and what is best for you in the long run.
Very well said

U2dem you are such a sweet person and I believe that the right one will come along soon As for being friends with this guy I see nothing wrong with that. It's always fun meeting someone who share the common interests. Have to agree with some others though that the age is a bit too much for a relationship.
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Old 05-29-2006, 01:53 PM   #19
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Maybe I am too cynical, but I don't see a 36 year old man looking to be friends with a 19 year old girl. I could be wrong and he could be a real great guy, but I guess what I'm saying is just be careful.
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Old 05-29-2006, 03:03 PM   #20
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hmmm... your age difference is pretty much the same as my parents when they met, they've been married 36 years.

I know I really don't know you other than reading your posts, but I know you come off as a lot older and mature than 19. You have a good head on your shoulders and won't rush into anything. Good luck.
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Old 05-29-2006, 05:01 PM   #21
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You have to do what you want to do.

Dating with younger girls I found out that they naturally have very different expectations of a relationship compared to mine. Ok, he´s still four years older than me.. and there are persons who are more mature with 19 than others with 30. If you happen to get close to him or still thinking of it, I would generally ask him what he expects of his next relationship. Sometimes you just fall for someone, and you don´t care about age difference.. most of the times, anyway the expectations are different; he´ll maybe want someone very close (living together, or a family or whatever), after all, he´s approaching his 40s. For you this might be a tad bit too early. Anyway, there´s no general rule for or against - if you fall in love, enjoy it.
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Old 05-29-2006, 05:14 PM   #22
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I don't think age differences are a big deal. However, age differences usually indicate very different stages of life, and that's a big deal.

A lot of times I feel bad for Phil b/c he was basically stuck "waiting" for me to finish school and get my act together....and he's only 3 years older than me.
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Old 05-29-2006, 05:26 PM   #23
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A lot of times I feel bad for Phil b/c he was basically stuck "waiting" for me to finish school and get my act together....and he's only 3 years older than me.
Maybe it was ok to wait for you, see? Maybe it was all developing very naturally and that´s exactly what you needed. I understand though that in the U.S. life must be different, because while you´re in college you´re staying at the campus. We don´t..

Its generally a good thing to keep promises. Someone once promised me she would... when she had finished her studies. I waited for seven years. By the time she had finished, things had changed. So - Phil is lucky!
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Old 05-29-2006, 07:47 PM   #24
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It's obviously quite a high when you've finally met someone you felt an immediate connection to and haven't had that experience before.

I would agree, however, that a man that age is not looking for another friend, he's looking for something more (whether it's a fling or relationship). I think it's ok to go slightly older at your age (like 25 or 26), but a guy in his 30s, no matter how great he may seem, is probably not a good idea.
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Old 05-29-2006, 07:56 PM   #25
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I am seeing someone 9 years older than me, we live together now.

I took a year off from studying to move abroad, work, pay for my own flat / bills, etc which really helped me. I always had a lot of independence at home but you really grow up living away - especially in a foreign country.

The age difference was never a problem for me or our families - my parents have always liked him. I guess if the age gap was as big as 15 years or if we had very different pasts we wouldn't be going out. I never think about the age difference, it isn't an issue for me and nobody ever brings it up, most people think there is only a 3 or 4 year age gap.

The fact that you made a thread about your concern about this suggests you wouldn't be at all comfortable seeing him.
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Old 05-29-2006, 08:21 PM   #26
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Ooooooooookay no worries folks, he's just going to be a friend.
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Old 05-29-2006, 08:35 PM   #27
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It would be interesting to hear his thoughts on "just being friends". If I were you, I'd run like the wind.
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Old 05-29-2006, 08:46 PM   #28
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He seems to be getting older with every post. Six years in the span of a few hours. I think that the question isn't about whether or not everyone else is comfortable with his age, but whether or not you are. Judging by the fact that his age has changed so much and that you're posting this, I don't believe you are. I would say there is nothing wrong with being friends...
You know it's funny you see a six year span and I see only one year. Shows how different people perceive the same info.
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Old 05-29-2006, 09:46 PM   #29
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You know it's funny you see a six year span and I see only one year. Shows how different people perceive the same info.
I could have said 1-6 years or whatever but I really think that the issue you raise is besides the point now that the original poster has made her decision and is happy with it, and that's all that matters.
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Old 05-29-2006, 10:23 PM   #30
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I could have said 1-6 years or whatever but I really think that the issue you raise is besides the point now that the original poster has made her decision and is happy with it, and that's all that matters.
Yes sir! How dare I respond to anything. :madspot:
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