My family has been experiencing a lot of deaths and funerals for years now. Because both of my parents came from large families and all my aunts and uncles are getting older, news of relatives passing on and us attending funerals has become a sort of annual event in my family. It's sad but that's life for you.
One of my uncles is in very poor health and won't last the year. He was my favorite uncle, even though I didn't see him or even chat on the phone with him much. He was just plain cool, and it is sad that he is so ill.
Soon, he'll die and I might go to the funeral if my schedule allows, but I am so bad at funerals. Whenever I go to one, I get hysterical. I can't stop crying and I can barely deal with seeing someone in a casket. It is really embarrassing, even though people tell me I'm just being sensitive and there is nothing wrong with that.
But I truly think that I am not facing the reality of death. I mean, we are all going to die; we will all be that body in the casket. I think that is what bothers me the most: the fact that we will die. I get the impression that I haven't pondered the reality that someday I won't be here anymore. Whether tomorrow or 50 years from now, I can go at anytime. I don't think I've seriously looked at my mortality. For some reason, I think I'm afraid to. That maybe because it is scary not knowing when you can go and you may not be ready to because of plans you had for your future or the fear that you lived an unfulfilled life. I think that is what scares me about the reality of death.
So, my question is: how do you accept the reality of death? How did you come around to face that fear, if you had one? How do you cope when you go to funerals?
Oh, and please pray for my uncle because he is in bad shape.
Thanks!
One of my uncles is in very poor health and won't last the year. He was my favorite uncle, even though I didn't see him or even chat on the phone with him much. He was just plain cool, and it is sad that he is so ill.
Soon, he'll die and I might go to the funeral if my schedule allows, but I am so bad at funerals. Whenever I go to one, I get hysterical. I can't stop crying and I can barely deal with seeing someone in a casket. It is really embarrassing, even though people tell me I'm just being sensitive and there is nothing wrong with that.
But I truly think that I am not facing the reality of death. I mean, we are all going to die; we will all be that body in the casket. I think that is what bothers me the most: the fact that we will die. I get the impression that I haven't pondered the reality that someday I won't be here anymore. Whether tomorrow or 50 years from now, I can go at anytime. I don't think I've seriously looked at my mortality. For some reason, I think I'm afraid to. That maybe because it is scary not knowing when you can go and you may not be ready to because of plans you had for your future or the fear that you lived an unfulfilled life. I think that is what scares me about the reality of death.
So, my question is: how do you accept the reality of death? How did you come around to face that fear, if you had one? How do you cope when you go to funerals?
Oh, and please pray for my uncle because he is in bad shape.
Thanks!