Russty Cat
Rock n' Roll Doggie FOB
Learn to just nod and smile at nosy relatives. Its never good enough for people with too much time on their hands.
I was one of those girls that was living in a bad home situation and figured a knight in shining armor was my ticket to freedom and a great life! I was barely 21 when we got hitched. Bad! Bad! Bad idea!!!!!
You should marry someone when your ready too, because it feels right to you. Because you love them and want to be with them for them. Not what they can do for you or give to you aka kids. I've learned the hard way and I only say this stuff out of love and concern for other young women. Its okay to be single or to wait till your ready. Remember its no one elses life, but your own. And at the end of it, you must be happy with the choices you have made.
I'm not against marriage, just more for making sure its right for you and in your own timing.
I'm lucky that I shacked up with a guy who turned out to really be a good friend and someone I could count on. We've talked over the years and alot recently, cuz we were considering getting divorced and we realize alot of our problems stem from marrying way to young.
As for keeping the love alive, its a ton of work, but like someone else mentioned it becomes more about the little things. I have an auto immune disease that can be a real bitch and he is great about showing compassion and giving me lots of hugs when I don't feel well. Or little things like bringing me home bubble gum that I love that I never got to have when I was a kid. We have what we call "hang out dates", cuz we have two little kids so we can't get out as much. We make a time after the kids go to bed to hang out and talk and do something fun together. The main thing is just making a point to keep them as an important part of your life and not letting things get stale. Marriage is definetly work, but it can be so worth it with the right person.
I was one of those girls that was living in a bad home situation and figured a knight in shining armor was my ticket to freedom and a great life! I was barely 21 when we got hitched. Bad! Bad! Bad idea!!!!!
You should marry someone when your ready too, because it feels right to you. Because you love them and want to be with them for them. Not what they can do for you or give to you aka kids. I've learned the hard way and I only say this stuff out of love and concern for other young women. Its okay to be single or to wait till your ready. Remember its no one elses life, but your own. And at the end of it, you must be happy with the choices you have made.I'm not against marriage, just more for making sure its right for you and in your own timing.
I'm lucky that I shacked up with a guy who turned out to really be a good friend and someone I could count on. We've talked over the years and alot recently, cuz we were considering getting divorced and we realize alot of our problems stem from marrying way to young. As for keeping the love alive, its a ton of work, but like someone else mentioned it becomes more about the little things. I have an auto immune disease that can be a real bitch and he is great about showing compassion and giving me lots of hugs when I don't feel well. Or little things like bringing me home bubble gum that I love that I never got to have when I was a kid. We have what we call "hang out dates", cuz we have two little kids so we can't get out as much. We make a time after the kids go to bed to hang out and talk and do something fun together. The main thing is just making a point to keep them as an important part of your life and not letting things get stale. Marriage is definetly work, but it can be so worth it with the right person.
maybe ill marry a 20 year old when im 60, yeah thats the ticket.
