So, how much longer do I have to wait?

[U2democrat]

I'm 18. I haven't had a kiss. Or a boyfriend. How much longer do I have to wait? For I don't know how many years people have been telling me "Don't worry you'll get your chance." I am the only one out of all my friends who has not been kissed. It gets lonely! I have no clue what it's like, or to have a guy like me. Then people tell me "Oh it's not worth it don't worry." But these people who tell me that are constantly seeking a guy or have a boyfriend. The hypocracy is amazing! It's not like I'm freakishly ugly. I'm 5'1", 85 lbs, natural blonde hair, blue eyes, fair skin with a freckled face. People call me "cute" all the time. So why is it taking me so long to have any sort of relationship with a guy?!?!



There done with my rant.

 

[beli]

Cause school boys are dickheads. /jk

Dont worry. Some people are more attractive as teens, some more attractive as adults.

Im not talking about physically attractive here. (though that can apply, usually to some boys who look a little odd until they are men). But personality. Especially if you are opinonated and assertive young woman. Its been a while since I was a teen but it was usually the giggly, hair flicking in crowd that got all the boys.

The more independent ones had to wait until boys got over that whole hormone crisis thing.

Your turn will come.

 

[The OOTS]

Love never finds you when you absolutely want it to.

Love will find you when you least expect it.

 

[U2democrat]

Beli i think you're right about the opinionated and assertive thing. One of my friends dads thinks I intimidate guys because i'm so firm . But i'm not about to change just so i can get a guy!

 

[Iskra]

How Soon is Now?
The Smiths.
That sums that up.

 

[bsp77]

Well, if you do not have any luck for the rest of your senior year, I guarantee that you will get plenty of attention when you get to college. I have found that there is not nearly as many seperate groups in college. I mean you still have the art students, the frat boys, the sorority girls,, the geeks, etc, but everyone still mixes quite a bit and it is much more social. Though, as we have discussed in other threads, there tends to be a lot of alcohol involved. So you may actually get more attention than you want.

Just be patient, it will happen, I didn't have a real girlfriend until I went to college. She is now my wife, which I am not sure if it is sweet or sad. Regardless, I am happy.

 

[U2democrat]

Ah that's one reason why I can't wait until college. So many more guys who are different from the ones at school.

 

[beli]

Beli i think you're right about the opinionated and assertive thing. One of my friends dads thinks I intimidate guys because i'm so firm. :-|. But i'm not about to change just so i can get a guy!

Thats why I said it, you remind me of the girl I was.

I didnt have my first kiss until I was about 19, I think. Something "ancient" anyway.

A lot of teens behave like pack animals. The boys that hunt the same girls who want to be hunted.

There are some boys out there that will value your opinionated nature. They just may be thinly dispersed in the community or supress this side openly as its not socially acceptable (yet).

Work out where they go. For me it was Amnesty International / Greenpeace etc. For you it might be to do with that politican you are a fan of (sorry fogot his name ).

And I agree with OOTs - and John Lennon. "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans"

It will happen when you least expect it.

 

[bsp77]

Ah that's one reason why I can't wait until college. So many more guys who are different from the ones at school.

You would surprised by the number of nice boys at college. Most of my close friends were so nice that they were usually considered "friends" by the girls. Hopefully, you would be one of the smart ones to realize that they could be more than friends. College is actually much easier than high school.

 

[U2Kitten]

No one deserves you yet. But it will happen!

 

[Lancemc]

If this weren't the Internet I'd kiss you right now.

I'm actually a Junior now, and have never really had a "real" girlfriend or anything like that. I've never been real affectionate with anyone else either. That's just who I am, more introverted and self-aware. I'm fine waiting until college. Maybe next year something will happen though, who knows.

 

[TheBrazilianFly]

I'm 5'1", 85 lbs, natural blonde hair, blue eyes, fair skin with a freckled face. People call me "cute" all the time. So why is it taking me so long to have any sort of relationship with a guy?!?!

Maybe they're all gay....

 

[U2democrat]

Yeah Lancemc I guess I'll have to wait until college too.

@ Fly.

 

[beli]

Oops, my apologies for calling you a "girl". Im not entirely sure why I turned into my own grandmother for a minute there.

 

[Lancemc]

Yeah Lancemc I guess I'll have to wait until college too.

@ Fly.

What sorts of things are you interested in...like majors and minors and stuff I mean? Any life/career goals?

 

[U2democrat]

Minor in Leadership (I have to because I got into the leadership program at Christopher Newport University ) major in Poli-sci. My goal is to work my way up in washington, eventually work in the white house as a political advisor, and perhaps one day run for office.

 

[U2democrat]

Oops, my apologies for calling you a "girl". Im not entirely sure why I turned into my own grandmother for a minute there.

It's ok. I have no problem with it. Honestly I find it weirder when someone calls me a woman. I'm just not used to being an 'adult'.

 

[Lancemc]

Minor in Leadership (I have to because I got into the leadership program at Christopher Newport University ) major in Poli-sci. My goal is to work my way up in washington, eventually work in the white house as a political advisor, and perhaps one day run for office.

Those are very admirable goals. All the luck to you.
I was hoping to play some role in record production during my life. Being a producer would be the top goal for me. Hmmm, not sure what exactly I'd need to major in for something like that, but I'll figure it out eventually.

 

[beli]

Those are very admirable goals. All the luck to you.
I was hoping to play some role in record production during my life. Being a producer would be the top goal for me. Hmmm, not sure what exactly I'd need to major in for something like that, but I'll figure it out eventually.

Audio engineering?

 

[U2democrat]

Yeah I have no clue. You've got plenty of time to make decisions though.

 

[TheBrazilianFly]

It's ok. I have no problem with it. Honestly I find it weirder when someone calls me a woman. I'm just not used to being an 'adult'.

Yeah, me too. I'm not used to be called a woman. But seriously, have you ever hit on a guy U2democrat? And by the way maybe someone likes you and you don't even know. That's very normal!

 

[U2democrat]

I've hit on guys yeah. But they never show interest in me. I don't know, it's annoying to have been alone for so many years when all my friends around me have had relationships.

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

Cause school boys are dickheads. /jk

Some grown ones are, too, but I digress..


It'll happen, U2democrat. Just give it time. I felt the same way you do now when I was your age, but just a year later I began dating, so all things come in time.

 

[A_Wanderer]

I don't have an easy answer for you - your smart, witty, like the same stuff that I do and from the sound of it good looking to boot, let me put it this way; your not the problem in this equation. Things may suck now but things can only get better. And I can give you this guarantee that if we are ever in the same city I would be more than willing to go out with you.

 

[Liesje]

It's easier to find friends and potential boyfriends in college. I went to a Class A high school and there were still NO guys I even had the slightest amount of interest in. I went out with this guy in 8th grade and I really did like him, but we broke up a few months into our freshmen year and after that, I just never cared for guys. Gymnastics and work took up so much time anyway. I found out it was more fun cleaning up baby spit up than trying to find a guy I had even the slightest amount of interest in.

 

[Sicy]

I think you should post your pic

 

[TheBrazilianFly]

I think you should post your pic

 

[lauren430]

U2democrat, don't worry. It sounds like it is more common than we think. I was exactly the same way. I didn't have my first boyfriend or my first kiss until I was 18 and in college. And all growing up, I never even had a "boyfriend", you know, where it meant nothing but holding hands at lunch. Nope, not even that! I felt like you did; all my friends in high school had a boyfriend at one point or another. But never me. Don't worry, when you meet the right person none of that will matter anymore.

 

[KhanadaRhodes]

i had the same problem when i was 18. glad to see i wasn't the only one! so yeah i didn't get my first kiss until i was 18 either. i felt ancient at the time too but seeing how many people are or were in the same boat as me makes me feel a lot better!

 

[Laura M]

I had my first kiss when I was about 12 or 13, that feels too young to me now.
I didn't go out with that many people and I was pretty much ignored by any guys until I was about 16 and started going out with a guy in my class. Although it's nice to have someone like you and pay attention to you, I much prefer being single. I like to do my own thing. At the minute I'm seeing someone and it's been nothing but hassle but I'll not get into that here.

You seem like a very pretty, very smart girl u2dem. Maybe you only see the same guys everyday in school and don't get a chance to meet new people? I know when I was studying in my final year of school I didn't really socialise that much and didn't meet any new folk until I started university. I have single friends, friends starting to go out with someone new, and friends who are looking for someone to go out with. They are always complaining about the situation they are in, when they are single they aren't happy, when they are seeing someone they complain too. Enjoy being single, I know it's a cliche but you will meet someone when you least expect it. I met one of my ex's when I was running up a flight of stairs in the library and nearly knocked him over.