you ever have your other half put 100% of the blame on you? She feels we shouldn't talk right now because we're both trying to get through a tough time, but in the future she would like to be friends.
basically she's going out with an ex b/f of hers, and she doesn't want me to know about it. the only reason i know about it is he had been calling her phone while she was still living with me. I thought that was dirty pool, but it is what it is I guess.
anyway, i've been struggling lately because I don't have a support system. i have a best friend from college, but we have to becareful talking to each other because her husband is jealous, and she fears for her and her kids safety.
that's a story for another time though. my parents have been giving me a hard time, and they keep trying to give me a "chat" about my future. how i need to run things through them from now on.
so i guess the next time i have sex with a chick, i need to call them and ask for permission first. guess it's a good thing they don't know about 2 weeks ago then.
so anyway, i have no one to talk to. i can't get into a therapist for another 3 weeks because of the holidays, and my work schedule. so i'm really hurting. i would like to go out and drink or just get out of the house, but most of my friends are married, and it's very tough for them to get out...especially considering they would be hanging out with a recently divorced 28 year old.
so my wife tells me flat out that this is all happening because i didn't want to work on our marriage. i made the choice to give up, and i have to deal with it now. what's odd is just 2 weeks ago she was telling me how great of a guy I am, and she hopes I don't feel this marriage or relationship was a mistake. So this kind of shocks me. actually really hurts me that i'm the one to blame. yet her demands that i give everything up for the marriage, or the fact that maybe yes i did make the choice, but it was a choice that had to be made for both of our sanity.
so right now i'm going fucking crazy. not in a real bad way i guess, just lots of thoughts processing. i'm starting to question what it is that I want to do with my life going forward.
i'm a database administrator. i make sure the "lights are on". there's only so much fucking tuning you can do to a database. yes, new technology is coming out, and of course business changes about as fast as a new platform or a patch to the OS comes out.
i just don't know if it's me. tough thing, i make a shit load of money, and i don't mean to sound conceited. i'm 28 years old. i have my mortgage as my only debt. and that's usually considered a good debt....since it's equity.
but it really doesn't mean that much to me. only so many argyle sweaters i can buy from bananna republic
i've thought about law enforcement. i think detective work would be interesting. even regular police work seems kind of cool.
i'm also thinking about the military. it would have nothing to do with serving the country, but rather, serving myself. i've read somewhere that the ultimate test to find out what you're made of is through war. separates the men from the boys. the army rangers is a group that really interests me. so it's probably something i will inquire within the next few weeks.
so yeah, another random post from me. just clearing the air in my head (lots of it). I apologize for spelling and lack of caps in the appropriate places, but i'm typing on a company laptop that is sitting at eye level on my dresser. it's serving as my desk for right now. I just went today and looked at a bed, computer desk, a computer, and a possible dining room table.
although i will admit that my sofa boat is extremely comfy!!!
so yeah. hanging in there. this next week starts a run through the end of the year of having every friday off. so it'll be a nice month and a half of having extended weekends.
if anyone wants to talk over email, you can send stuff to
nroberson@fhlbdm.com
again, i usually have free time when i'm watching a performance monitor at work