lemon_drop
The Fly
Years ago, I met a couple of pretty visible U2 fans in the Pacific NW, we hit it off, did things together. I helped them with air tickets(buddy passes) and we would watch U2 vid's together - marathons.. and get together to craft t-shirts, plan concerts, travel, and just coffee sometimes..
I got sick. I kept it from them. I felt it was my deal, and that it wasn't going to kill me, although at times the pain would feel like it should.
I forgot a couple different meet-ups. I apologized profusely, and told them a bit of my medical issues. That didn't seem to make too much of a difference, as I got an email from them saying that they no longer wanted to be friends with me, that I was unreliable.. and the email ended with "I hope your neck gets better" well.. turned out I have a rare disorder, that I ended up having a brain surgery for three years ago, and it's difficult to diagnose and really only about 10 neurosurgeons that are competent enough to do this type of surgery.
This was all four years ago, and when I think of U2, and different ways that U2 fans act towards each other, well I think that we are pretty accepting of each other.
I guess what I'm saying is that we should all be accepting, caring of each other, and even if personally I was in the wrong by not telling them the depth of my problems(I don't know if I should've or not - since we were U2 buds, and not best friends) and I really felt dumped. I thought them careless. I suppose that in some ways I was too, but I don't know other than telling them I was/am sick and whether that would of changed their minds or not? I'm not a bad person, and have been a good friend and confidante to my friends and family.
There was no discussion with them, it was a done deal. It was them against me, and I was in the wrong, and I couldn't at that point explain what was wrong and why I was the way I was.
The brain disorder that I dealt with(and still deal with, no cure, just the surgery to halt the progression)causes some fatigue, brain fog.. anyways.. I know in some ways I was wrong, but how can some people treat others this way? I was very hurt..
We had in common our love of the lads from Ireland, the music, the lyrics and the desire to see them live, and try to interpret the music.
All I know, is that the tour is starting again in the fall, and there will be chance meetings I am sure. I felt wronged and hurt. I haven't spoken ill of them, and won't. It's uncomfortable, and I certainly don't want their pity, nor anyone elses..
What are other U2 fans expectations of others in their friendships? When a U2 bud encounters a life altering medical condition? I tried to act and appear "normal" and that my stamina was the same as theirs. But it wasn't, and I wasn't honest about that part of me. I guess I was in denial about my condition.
Hopefully zoo confessionals is the right place for this. This has bothered me for a long time now. And at times, it hurts the same day I opened the email.
Thanks for listening.. and reading. That has been cathartic for me...
I got sick. I kept it from them. I felt it was my deal, and that it wasn't going to kill me, although at times the pain would feel like it should.
I forgot a couple different meet-ups. I apologized profusely, and told them a bit of my medical issues. That didn't seem to make too much of a difference, as I got an email from them saying that they no longer wanted to be friends with me, that I was unreliable.. and the email ended with "I hope your neck gets better" well.. turned out I have a rare disorder, that I ended up having a brain surgery for three years ago, and it's difficult to diagnose and really only about 10 neurosurgeons that are competent enough to do this type of surgery.
This was all four years ago, and when I think of U2, and different ways that U2 fans act towards each other, well I think that we are pretty accepting of each other.
I guess what I'm saying is that we should all be accepting, caring of each other, and even if personally I was in the wrong by not telling them the depth of my problems(I don't know if I should've or not - since we were U2 buds, and not best friends) and I really felt dumped. I thought them careless. I suppose that in some ways I was too, but I don't know other than telling them I was/am sick and whether that would of changed their minds or not? I'm not a bad person, and have been a good friend and confidante to my friends and family.
There was no discussion with them, it was a done deal. It was them against me, and I was in the wrong, and I couldn't at that point explain what was wrong and why I was the way I was.
The brain disorder that I dealt with(and still deal with, no cure, just the surgery to halt the progression)causes some fatigue, brain fog.. anyways.. I know in some ways I was wrong, but how can some people treat others this way? I was very hurt..
We had in common our love of the lads from Ireland, the music, the lyrics and the desire to see them live, and try to interpret the music.
All I know, is that the tour is starting again in the fall, and there will be chance meetings I am sure. I felt wronged and hurt. I haven't spoken ill of them, and won't. It's uncomfortable, and I certainly don't want their pity, nor anyone elses..
What are other U2 fans expectations of others in their friendships? When a U2 bud encounters a life altering medical condition? I tried to act and appear "normal" and that my stamina was the same as theirs. But it wasn't, and I wasn't honest about that part of me. I guess I was in denial about my condition.
Hopefully zoo confessionals is the right place for this. This has bothered me for a long time now. And at times, it hurts the same day I opened the email.
Thanks for listening.. and reading. That has been cathartic for me...