jesseu2
Refugee
I have never had a girlfriend ever in my life so a best-friend is all i've had...
We were very good friends until recently. He is 34 years old an keeps to himself, only has a cat and his other friend who i know also.
This weekend he tells me he no longer wants to be my friend and to stop calling him. That really hit me like a train because we were like brothers as we looked up to each other, partied, traveled, an talked about women, etc.
I admit i set him off a bit but he blows things way out of proportion. I know this is based on three things from the past. He dwells too much on the past an will not shut the hell up about it. I've apologized many times.
1.
It all started in Vegas when i invited him to come meet a couple interferencers an see ELEVATION U2 TRIBUTE play. We sat down an somebody told him "thats my drink there, you must be in my seat" an he felt soo insulted that he left an went back to hotel an left Vegas like that. At the time i had no idea what happened, i tried talking to him but he would not answer me. Did not know what happened until i got back to hotel. I was excited to be there for the show an yet he just took off an left after 5 minutes. i should of left an went with him, i regret not doing that. But i think he is too sensitive an needs to grow up a little.
2.
A friend and i were at his place during last summer. Friend notices $100 missing an kept buggin me if my friend took it.. so to shut my visiting friend up, i just tried asking him man to man an he lost trust in me.... now he's angry at me for somethin friend wondered. Visiting friend realizes he may have spent it unknowingly somewhere in hollywood. Friend was sick an throwing up alot an said he's been laying in bed with his ulcer problem, i WISH my visiting friend would have stopped asking about the $100, DAMN!
He's totally blown that out of proportion and has changed his password on his mac, he told me it before in case if something happened to him that i would go there and erase stuff before his parents get there.
Ever since then, he's sounded like a broken record repeating this event. sooo annoying.
3.
2-3 weeks ago, he wanted to come visit as he always does once a year to meet up with his parents for this car show...,but i was tryin to tell him it wasn't a good time, stressful because my sister was moving in an wasn't sure he wanted to be here during this chaos that was going on (room mate, friend who went to LA with me.... was living here an arguing with his girlfriend non-stop, girl-friend has a kid that hangs around an is loud, i was broke because i paid off a credit card and did not plan on going out, stressed out looking for a job an not finding anything, i just wanted to be alone, so much of my own drama) and that it was crowded and right away before i could finish my sentence, he said he was insulted because he let me an a friend come to visit him..and i had a larger place than he does on but he wouldn't listen to me, just hung up... What the hell. Needs to be a grown up an listen to me, dammit.
Is all of this normal? Doesn't sound like it to me. It all sounds like high school crap.
He said very rude asshole things that was hurtful that i didn't sleep well this weekend until now... he's acting like a drama queen, too damn sensitive... like hes a crazy cat man.
For the past year, he has said he wanted to kill himself because he lost his grandmother and his cat, will not go see a doctor for some mysterious illness and his ulcer because he doesn't want to find out what he fears most an will not tell his parents either, has no friends in LA, no girlfriend, hates the people there as some broke his window, got in a fight for no reason, etc... All he does is sit at home an watch tv shows an movies pretty much from 8pm-3am, An go to school an work... no interaction with people in between. Only calls me after 3-4 am on weekends which is annoying as i am sleeping.
I never wanna see or hear from him again, he told me not to call him again. He told our friend everything but i do not know what he said to her which absolutely angers me. I really want to hurt him because he hurt me.
He kind of used me i think, knows i get money each month for my disability... got me into thinking "its your money, don't listen to your parents" an how cool would it be to have a big screen tv and PS3, sound system, etc. he is a audio/video guru an loves movies. Problem is i didn't have thousands of dollars, so i thinking i could pay it off on my own an get a job after college; put it all on credit card on top of other debts i owed already... BAD IDEA.. its nice an all but i'm stuck paying this off and am having a hard time paying this off and trying to find a job with the economy the way it is now... my mom is very pissed at him now.
He also turned me into pushing away religious people because we both are not religious at all. I feel terrible because i have ignored a couple people who cared about me an instead i put my best-friend first before everyone else. i am not sure these people will talk to me again..
Was i the bad guy in this friendship? He makes it sound like it.
I just feel very emotionally drained and really hurt now, needed to talk about it. I think he is mentally ill or something, i just am realizing it after 6 years. I am tryin to move on an accept it like a man but its very hard to forget everything he told me on phone, it all keeps replaying in my head... this has never happened to me before. I so want to get back at him by doing stuff to him but i probably should not.
We were very good friends until recently. He is 34 years old an keeps to himself, only has a cat and his other friend who i know also.
This weekend he tells me he no longer wants to be my friend and to stop calling him. That really hit me like a train because we were like brothers as we looked up to each other, partied, traveled, an talked about women, etc.
I admit i set him off a bit but he blows things way out of proportion. I know this is based on three things from the past. He dwells too much on the past an will not shut the hell up about it. I've apologized many times.
1.
It all started in Vegas when i invited him to come meet a couple interferencers an see ELEVATION U2 TRIBUTE play. We sat down an somebody told him "thats my drink there, you must be in my seat" an he felt soo insulted that he left an went back to hotel an left Vegas like that. At the time i had no idea what happened, i tried talking to him but he would not answer me. Did not know what happened until i got back to hotel. I was excited to be there for the show an yet he just took off an left after 5 minutes. i should of left an went with him, i regret not doing that. But i think he is too sensitive an needs to grow up a little.
2.
A friend and i were at his place during last summer. Friend notices $100 missing an kept buggin me if my friend took it.. so to shut my visiting friend up, i just tried asking him man to man an he lost trust in me.... now he's angry at me for somethin friend wondered. Visiting friend realizes he may have spent it unknowingly somewhere in hollywood. Friend was sick an throwing up alot an said he's been laying in bed with his ulcer problem, i WISH my visiting friend would have stopped asking about the $100, DAMN!
He's totally blown that out of proportion and has changed his password on his mac, he told me it before in case if something happened to him that i would go there and erase stuff before his parents get there.
Ever since then, he's sounded like a broken record repeating this event. sooo annoying.
3.
2-3 weeks ago, he wanted to come visit as he always does once a year to meet up with his parents for this car show...,but i was tryin to tell him it wasn't a good time, stressful because my sister was moving in an wasn't sure he wanted to be here during this chaos that was going on (room mate, friend who went to LA with me.... was living here an arguing with his girlfriend non-stop, girl-friend has a kid that hangs around an is loud, i was broke because i paid off a credit card and did not plan on going out, stressed out looking for a job an not finding anything, i just wanted to be alone, so much of my own drama) and that it was crowded and right away before i could finish my sentence, he said he was insulted because he let me an a friend come to visit him..and i had a larger place than he does on but he wouldn't listen to me, just hung up... What the hell. Needs to be a grown up an listen to me, dammit.
Is all of this normal? Doesn't sound like it to me. It all sounds like high school crap.
He said very rude asshole things that was hurtful that i didn't sleep well this weekend until now... he's acting like a drama queen, too damn sensitive... like hes a crazy cat man.
For the past year, he has said he wanted to kill himself because he lost his grandmother and his cat, will not go see a doctor for some mysterious illness and his ulcer because he doesn't want to find out what he fears most an will not tell his parents either, has no friends in LA, no girlfriend, hates the people there as some broke his window, got in a fight for no reason, etc... All he does is sit at home an watch tv shows an movies pretty much from 8pm-3am, An go to school an work... no interaction with people in between. Only calls me after 3-4 am on weekends which is annoying as i am sleeping.
I never wanna see or hear from him again, he told me not to call him again. He told our friend everything but i do not know what he said to her which absolutely angers me. I really want to hurt him because he hurt me.
He kind of used me i think, knows i get money each month for my disability... got me into thinking "its your money, don't listen to your parents" an how cool would it be to have a big screen tv and PS3, sound system, etc. he is a audio/video guru an loves movies. Problem is i didn't have thousands of dollars, so i thinking i could pay it off on my own an get a job after college; put it all on credit card on top of other debts i owed already... BAD IDEA.. its nice an all but i'm stuck paying this off and am having a hard time paying this off and trying to find a job with the economy the way it is now... my mom is very pissed at him now.
He also turned me into pushing away religious people because we both are not religious at all. I feel terrible because i have ignored a couple people who cared about me an instead i put my best-friend first before everyone else. i am not sure these people will talk to me again..
Was i the bad guy in this friendship? He makes it sound like it.
I just feel very emotionally drained and really hurt now, needed to talk about it. I think he is mentally ill or something, i just am realizing it after 6 years. I am tryin to move on an accept it like a man but its very hard to forget everything he told me on phone, it all keeps replaying in my head... this has never happened to me before. I so want to get back at him by doing stuff to him but i probably should not.
What an ass.
I screen my calls -- if people I don't want to talk to call, I simply don't pick up (and then delete any message they leave). Yeah, it's kind of irritating that he keeps calling and playing victim, but you have the power to just ignore him.
