Well, there is losing yourself, as in, over time.
And there is losing yourself in someone else - falling so hard for someone that you act strangely, and it warps your personality a little. You may become too dependant on that other person, etc, etc.
Finding oneself, for me, is a thing, a journey that never ends. No one ever wakes up one day and "finds themself". It's like..... like going on a true journey - it seldom is about the destination, but the road you take getting there.
Losing yourself in someone else is like what you say here:
A way of becoming the person that, according to you, will be loved by the other person?
at least, that is my interpretation of that term.
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something doesn't seem quite right...... I don't know if I am understanding you... I've got a lot going on in my head, so maybe I'm not thinking in straight lines.....)
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In short, what I meant by my last post is that I got too involved, too close to someone for my own good. I mean, caring about someone isn't neccesarily a bad thing. But for me, I didn't realize how deeply I was capapble of caring about someone, how extreme it is for me, either by choice, or just by how I care. I don't know. It was just a... a learning experience. I honestly didn't know I could care about someone in such a way, and so it mystified me - how could I become like that? I didn't know. And in some ways, I still don't know, and probably won't ever know how that works. Who knows...
My mistake was getting too close to the fire, so to say, and maybe I did get burned a bit. It was more out of ignorance, though - - I honestly didn't... conceive... that I could ... or really, that it was possible for me to concern myself with another person to that degree. So, obviously, that experience has made me cautious.
But I haven't neccesarily given up hope.
It just took me a long, long time to re-order my life
This reminds me of a song...........
I took my love, I took it down
Climbed a mountain and I turned around
I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
’till the landslide brought me down
Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail thru the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life
Well, I’ve been afraid of changing
’cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I’m getting older too
Oh, take my love, take it down
Climb a mountain and turn around
If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well the landslide will bring it down
If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well maybe the landslide will bring it down
"Landslide" - I think originally done by Fleetwood-Mac. But many have done covers of the original.. though I think the original is the best, especially the original accoustic version, live......
(heh, it was, for the duration of my youth, my father's favorite song, oddly enough......)
As for where I am going with this post, I've forgotten.....
I hope it made sense
i hope the best for you, lady luck, I really do.
...... but really......... -> 
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