shart1780
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As you may know, a few months ago my girlfriend of three years and I broke up. It was pretty darn hard for me. We ended up talking about getting back together, but the very same night she cheated on me.
We decided not to get back together of course. About a month ago she called me to tell me she found this guy she was crazy about. I was just getting over her, but this bascally set me back a couple months. I felt pretty horrible about it. Again, we decided not to talk until I was over her.
Now I am over her. It's obvious to me that she was a bad girlfriend and had no interest in making me happy. I talked to her a bit about a week ago, and it went fine. I was over her so I didn't feel too bad. About a month ago she told me that she wanted to be able to talk as friends soon, so I thought it would be ok.
Well, she started talking about this guy she's with. She started talking about how he loves to party and fool around with other girls and such, so I became pretty worried for her. I talked to her alot about it and told her that it's not a good idea to be with him. I told her that she needed to respect herself and that she was worth more than that etc.. Either that or she needs to talk to him about all of these things.
She continued to willingly talk to me about it for around a week and I was genuinely concerned. I'm not in love with her, but I do love and care about her, and want her to be happy. Almost like I need to watch over her and care for her or something.
Today I was talking to a friend of mine that knows her, and apparently the whole thing was a big lie that her and her boyfriend thought up. I don't know if I should call it a joke because it was obviously pretty cruel. I made it very clear to her many times that I was really concerned that she was making a mistake, and she baited me on for a week.
This made me pretty mad. I talked to her a bit about it and told her I was pretty mad about it. I wasn't mean (I sure wanted to be) about it though. I told her I was pretty disappointed that when I could finally talk to her as a friend she just played with my mind some more. I then told her I didn't want to talk to her anymore because I couldn't trust her. She basically said good riddance and left.
As if that wasn't bad enough, her friend also told me that she really didn't cheat on me. Who should I believe? I have no idea. This girl obviously has no problem lying. The situation is pretty pathetic either way.
This whole thing is kind of sobering to me. I'm not really angry anymore, just confused. Why would she do this? I made it clear that I was acting as a friend. Heck, I even encouraged her to work on a healthy relationship with him. As soon as I put my trust in her as a friend she basically stabbed me in the back like she did when we were going out. I genuinely do love her. Not romantically, but I care for her very much as a friend, and I want her to be very happy.
Man this sucks. I don't know whether to be mad or sad. It's just all really disappointing that she would disrespect me that much. She doesn't even seem sorry about it. She treated it in a pretty casual way. I tried to get our relationship to work for three years and she ended up leading me on, lying, and/or cheating. I was devastated to lose her partially because I put so much into the relationship. I don't understand why she'd want to hurt me and push me away as a friend too.
Well, I definitely don't ever want to talk to her again
We decided not to get back together of course. About a month ago she called me to tell me she found this guy she was crazy about. I was just getting over her, but this bascally set me back a couple months. I felt pretty horrible about it. Again, we decided not to talk until I was over her.
Now I am over her. It's obvious to me that she was a bad girlfriend and had no interest in making me happy. I talked to her a bit about a week ago, and it went fine. I was over her so I didn't feel too bad. About a month ago she told me that she wanted to be able to talk as friends soon, so I thought it would be ok.
Well, she started talking about this guy she's with. She started talking about how he loves to party and fool around with other girls and such, so I became pretty worried for her. I talked to her alot about it and told her that it's not a good idea to be with him. I told her that she needed to respect herself and that she was worth more than that etc.. Either that or she needs to talk to him about all of these things.
She continued to willingly talk to me about it for around a week and I was genuinely concerned. I'm not in love with her, but I do love and care about her, and want her to be happy. Almost like I need to watch over her and care for her or something.
Today I was talking to a friend of mine that knows her, and apparently the whole thing was a big lie that her and her boyfriend thought up. I don't know if I should call it a joke because it was obviously pretty cruel. I made it very clear to her many times that I was really concerned that she was making a mistake, and she baited me on for a week.
This made me pretty mad. I talked to her a bit about it and told her I was pretty mad about it. I wasn't mean (I sure wanted to be) about it though. I told her I was pretty disappointed that when I could finally talk to her as a friend she just played with my mind some more. I then told her I didn't want to talk to her anymore because I couldn't trust her. She basically said good riddance and left.
As if that wasn't bad enough, her friend also told me that she really didn't cheat on me. Who should I believe? I have no idea. This girl obviously has no problem lying. The situation is pretty pathetic either way.
This whole thing is kind of sobering to me. I'm not really angry anymore, just confused. Why would she do this? I made it clear that I was acting as a friend. Heck, I even encouraged her to work on a healthy relationship with him. As soon as I put my trust in her as a friend she basically stabbed me in the back like she did when we were going out. I genuinely do love her. Not romantically, but I care for her very much as a friend, and I want her to be very happy.
Man this sucks. I don't know whether to be mad or sad. It's just all really disappointing that she would disrespect me that much. She doesn't even seem sorry about it. She treated it in a pretty casual way. I tried to get our relationship to work for three years and she ended up leading me on, lying, and/or cheating. I was devastated to lose her partially because I put so much into the relationship. I don't understand why she'd want to hurt me and push me away as a friend too.
Well, I definitely don't ever want to talk to her again
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