AtomicBono
ONE love, blood, life
Okay Interference, I know you love relationship drama.
It goes like this:
I have a friend. We've just met this semester, hung out a few times -always with other people. I really, really like him, though I haven't told him this. I talk to him on AIM sometimes. We're talking on Sunday and he's bummed out. I ask if there's anything I can do and he says a hug, which is perfectly acceptable...then he straight up asks if I want to make out. I get him to elaborate, asking if he's serious or what, and he says "i um... think you're a killer girl and i love being around you, but i'm really pretty pissed at women right now and it's probably not a good idea to get into anything," but he still is up for making out. I make it clear that I like him but there's no pressure, conversation kinda lulls for over an hour and I think maybe he's changed his mind, so I ask if he wants to hang out and watch a movie, not necessarily implying anything.
Well, he came over...I only remember about the first ten minutes of the movie. He leaned on me, I started playing with his hair, things built from there. No sex, but also no clothes...
The next day I don't hear from him at all; I fear he's avoiding me...I eventually talk to him that night, and find out that "last night was a bit too much" and he "didn't mean for it to go that far." (Fine, except, wait a minute, WHO asked to make out?) He says we're friends and he doesn't do the friends with benefits thing, and so I ask him if he likes me like that, and he says "not right now."
Now, I understand that he didn't want to get in a relationship right away. He warned me of this multiple times, even asked if I'd be disappointed if it didn't go anywhere past that one night. But I'm a little confused. If we're friends, but he doesn't do the friends with benefits thing, and he doesn't like me that way, then...what the hell happened? Was it wrong of me to assume there was some sort of connection? It didn't feel like some purely physical lustful thing at the time, at all. Most of it was almost more affectionate than sexual.
Did I get played, or did I just assume too much? Do I still have a shot with this guy? I still like him a lot. I'm done being mad about it. Now I'm just trying to figure out if I should give up or what...
any input appreciated.
It goes like this:
I have a friend. We've just met this semester, hung out a few times -always with other people. I really, really like him, though I haven't told him this. I talk to him on AIM sometimes. We're talking on Sunday and he's bummed out. I ask if there's anything I can do and he says a hug, which is perfectly acceptable...then he straight up asks if I want to make out. I get him to elaborate, asking if he's serious or what, and he says "i um... think you're a killer girl and i love being around you, but i'm really pretty pissed at women right now and it's probably not a good idea to get into anything," but he still is up for making out. I make it clear that I like him but there's no pressure, conversation kinda lulls for over an hour and I think maybe he's changed his mind, so I ask if he wants to hang out and watch a movie, not necessarily implying anything.
Well, he came over...I only remember about the first ten minutes of the movie. He leaned on me, I started playing with his hair, things built from there. No sex, but also no clothes...
The next day I don't hear from him at all; I fear he's avoiding me...I eventually talk to him that night, and find out that "last night was a bit too much" and he "didn't mean for it to go that far." (Fine, except, wait a minute, WHO asked to make out?) He says we're friends and he doesn't do the friends with benefits thing, and so I ask him if he likes me like that, and he says "not right now."
Now, I understand that he didn't want to get in a relationship right away. He warned me of this multiple times, even asked if I'd be disappointed if it didn't go anywhere past that one night. But I'm a little confused. If we're friends, but he doesn't do the friends with benefits thing, and he doesn't like me that way, then...what the hell happened? Was it wrong of me to assume there was some sort of connection? It didn't feel like some purely physical lustful thing at the time, at all. Most of it was almost more affectionate than sexual.
Did I get played, or did I just assume too much? Do I still have a shot with this guy? I still like him a lot. I'm done being mad about it. Now I'm just trying to figure out if I should give up or what...
any input appreciated.