sorry for not reading this earlier
I was afraid of what it'd be about.
I'm a big dream believer, and my most reliable dream-analysis site is
Swoon. I've looked up some stuff for you BC.
As far as the man in real life goes, it *could* just be that you assocaited him with your dream since he looked similiar to the guy you dreamt about, and not necessarily mean that you were dreaming about him directly. I'm not sure.
Dream therapy: I've learned to be able to control my dreams, even if it's at the end of them. You KNOW You are having these dreams, BC. So when you are in the middle of it, try to tell yourself "this is a dream". TURN to the man in your dream and ask "what do you want?" Sometimes you'll receive an answer. If you find you can't do that, try and wake yourself up. Try not to sleep on your back.
let us know if you have any insights after reading these..
Gun
police
Gunshot
gas
Gang
Killing
Open Door
Parade
(so far recurring themes of finance and change)
Colors (check white, blue, red <--USA colors, as well...)
And look under a category you find best matches for
Recurring dreams.
Hope this helped a little.