MooMoo!
New Yorker
ive just really had it. i should have had it with him a long time ago, but i forgave him and pretended everything was ok.
basically, he drinks, and although he doesnt physically abuse us, he mentally abuses us. this is every week or so, maybe more. and it sometimes gets to the point where my mum or brother threatens to kill him, and/or attacks him. needless to say he still doesnt leave us alone.
now the thing is, hes never really been there for me as a father, he hardly ever talks to me or my brother (he actually used to pick on my brother, hes stopped now thankfully) and hes not generally a pleasant person.ive realized i hardly know anything about him, i know everything about my mum and her family, even stuff she doesnt want me to know. i know fuck all about my dad, or his family. everything in my life i have is thanks to my mum, whos worked all her life to provide for me and the family. dad works, them wastes it all away on drink, sometimes mums money, and he even trys to borrow it off me and my brother sometimes. he did it the other week, saying he needed money for petrol to pick mum up from work. (she gets the bus to and from work everyday )
he has another daughter from his first marriage, my half sister, and he did the same to her. shes now with someone and has a daughter herself, and when we went to the mainland, he didnt even bother to go and see her, or even ring her. i feel crap cos id really like to get in touch with her and see my niece.
well he came in drunk tonight, and started bugging us even though he had promised not to, and i just had enough and threated to call the police. it seemed to upset him, and he did sort of go away. but apparantly hes not "not talking to me" not that it makes a difference as he doesnt talk to me anyway.
if he comes in drunk again and bothers me, my brother or mum i seriously am gonna call the police and have him put away. mum really cant take anymore of it, shes ill as it is. id feel bad if i didnt do something. i was thinking of using my money and getting us a plane ticket to the mainland so we can spend new year with mums family. im not sure about it though yet. (without him of course)
i just really dont know what to do. mum wants a divorce, but we cant afford to pay the bills without his money. (even if he doesnt have a job most of the time, cos hes self employed now)
help.
basically, he drinks, and although he doesnt physically abuse us, he mentally abuses us. this is every week or so, maybe more. and it sometimes gets to the point where my mum or brother threatens to kill him, and/or attacks him. needless to say he still doesnt leave us alone.
now the thing is, hes never really been there for me as a father, he hardly ever talks to me or my brother (he actually used to pick on my brother, hes stopped now thankfully) and hes not generally a pleasant person.ive realized i hardly know anything about him, i know everything about my mum and her family, even stuff she doesnt want me to know. i know fuck all about my dad, or his family. everything in my life i have is thanks to my mum, whos worked all her life to provide for me and the family. dad works, them wastes it all away on drink, sometimes mums money, and he even trys to borrow it off me and my brother sometimes. he did it the other week, saying he needed money for petrol to pick mum up from work. (she gets the bus to and from work everyday )
he has another daughter from his first marriage, my half sister, and he did the same to her. shes now with someone and has a daughter herself, and when we went to the mainland, he didnt even bother to go and see her, or even ring her. i feel crap cos id really like to get in touch with her and see my niece.
well he came in drunk tonight, and started bugging us even though he had promised not to, and i just had enough and threated to call the police. it seemed to upset him, and he did sort of go away. but apparantly hes not "not talking to me" not that it makes a difference as he doesnt talk to me anyway.
if he comes in drunk again and bothers me, my brother or mum i seriously am gonna call the police and have him put away. mum really cant take anymore of it, shes ill as it is. id feel bad if i didnt do something. i was thinking of using my money and getting us a plane ticket to the mainland so we can spend new year with mums family. im not sure about it though yet. (without him of course)
i just really dont know what to do. mum wants a divorce, but we cant afford to pay the bills without his money. (even if he doesnt have a job most of the time, cos hes self employed now)
help.